This has been quite a long time brewing due to both the financial abuse/emotional abuse I've dealt with see my other posts for more information. I am still living n the home w/my marc due to me not having a job but he has cut me off all finances since October....so its truly been hectic....for the most part I've tried to stay in my home until our 3 kids 6,8 and 13 can finish school...basically once summer hits that was my plan.....40 more days to go, yesterday after he came home from work....my premonition of NEW supply was brought n2 focus by him coming home reeking of her perfume...mind u Sunday he was trying to make love to me I had to tell him no 3 times...he's cheated in the past left me for another woman for 2 years in addition me of course being the OW when he left his 13 yr marriage some years ago due to her cheating u have to wonder why she started cheating eh? Anyway my gut had already been telling me this for months now so I'm not n shock abt the other woman (his lame ass xcuse was he went to barber to get edge up that's what i was smelling) of course when I questioned him abt it....he got defensive jumped up and left house to go out....he never returned last night....thing is I'm more at peace when he's not around but now that my suspicions r correct I can no longer tolerate the sheer disrespect (see post left 4/26 "0.00 left to my name/Victoria Secret Gift Card). I don't deserve it tired of tolerating the disrepect, perfume reeking in his shirt had long convo yesterday with his parents even brought shirt to his mom....and she too had to admit that it was perfume.....being married to him I can't make him leave the home and he's advise me he will not leave....so my question to all u beautiful friends......I have 40 more days to go and im tempted to move me/my kids in a womans shelter....or try to stay at the house....he's in devaluatiom stage to 100degree and its one thing assuming he's with another woman but once u know without a doubt.....its a different ballgame....because now u r bringing it to the homefront....I really don't want to put my kids thru living in a shelter they don't deserve that but I'm not sure now that he knows I know abt the other woman if we can remain civil, he's a narc that doesn't want the world to know how awful and less than a man he is so behind closed doors he will be a wrathful man now that his mask has been revealed....let me know your thoughts....to keep me on course the path forward!!!!!