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Had class today with New narc boy. There are 5 of us in class.
I had told him I didn't want to be "friends" with him after he pulled the friend card the day after we had sex.
We were talking about hanging out tonight and he said this:
"You can do whatever you want but you called me strange and said you got enough friends I'm the one who told you it's dumb to end a friendship in the first place never wanted to end it to begin with I'm down to b friends and chill as long as you understand I don't wanna hook up down to chill any time.
I just responded: "Yeah I'm cool with that I'm seeing someone now anyways :-) "
he said "There you go it all works out i'm happy for ya"
I said "spanks"
he said "no prob"
I said: So if you wanna hang I'm goin out but I'll be back later on tonight
He says: "I think I got plans I'll let you know tho."
HAHA he's "down to chill any time" but now he "has plans" when I'm seeing someone (which FYI I am not.) We stopped hooking up less than 2 weeks ago.
I know all you guys think he's a narc when I posted before ... but ... why would he want to "still be friends" and "chill any time" if he doesn't intend so sleep with me? Wouldn't that be the sole purpose of hanging out!??!
why
April 28, 2012 - 6:46am — SundaySmileWhy lie about having a BF? That is manipulative because obviously it bothers you that he did not want to date you.
Why lie about having a BF....after you just 'slept' with him and reinforced his and your being OKAY with having sex with each other - and to just CHILL in the future? So from his POV, you had sex with him while you are in a relationship with (fictitious) bf and are OKAY with this.
Some of the terminology you use in your rendition of what happen baffle me.
Why not be honest and tell him how you feel instead of adding to the fact that you are NOT okay with him sleeping with you and walking away?
said: So if you wanna hang
April 28, 2012 - 4:00am — Usedsaid: So if you wanna hang I'm goin out but I'll be back later on tonight
He says: "I think I got plans I'll let you know tho."
YOU HAVE JUST BEEN D/D.....WHY DONT YOU GET IT?....
WHO CARES IF HE IS A NARC?
I was going to ignore this
April 27, 2012 - 9:33pm — Janie53I was going to ignore this but I changed my mind. You said I know all you guys think he is a narc but...
My question is why did you join a recovery forum form victims of narcs? Do you think he is a narcissist? If so, do what needs to be done! If not, please move on. We all have to be responsible for our actions.
My hope for you is that you can be true to you.
Janie
Not sure he is a narc but
April 27, 2012 - 9:17pm — Deidre99Not sure he is a narc but definitely immature. You can do better and he seems like a player/User. I would just go NC ....
Uh, ya, he doesn't really
April 27, 2012 - 8:28pm — JourneyUh, ya, he doesn't really want to 'still be friends' or 'chill any time'- there is no 'why', he only said that in case there was the opportunity to get more sex out of you.
Ignore, delete...
The real question here is
April 27, 2012 - 7:37pm — ruby01why are you playing with him?