After 7 years/7 breakups, I was finally thinking that things might be working out. That's when Wanna B started to get into his "cycle". I then became inceasingly aloof and detaching.(aka, not giving a crap) He must have taken note and started to increase his moody behavior. I was due to take a 4 day trip, so figured we would have a chat when I returned.No need to ruin the weekend and our planned dinner.
We are sitting having dinner and I started to relate, what I thought, was a funny story about one of my patients. WB says "I really don't want to hear about that"
Now, I'm thinking he's joking, because no one has ever said that to me, so I laugh and continue, at which point he cuts me off and says "what part of I don't want to hear about that, don't you understand?"
Light Bulb Moment...it occured to me as I drove home the next morning that WB never wanted to hear about what I was doing, it was always about him. I had the sickening feeling that I was dealing with someone who had worse problems than I had imagined.
3 days later he says we need to end the relationship. Reason being is that he needs to concentrate on his music and his mother. (It's been 2 months and he has not been to see his mother-and did not tell her we were finished)
I have struggled not only with the expenditure of energy & emotions over 7 years, but more so,with that I kept going back for more emotional abuse. I told WB at our last conversation that I had wanted a partner who was as interessed and supportive of what I do, as I was in them. Why didn't I demand this in the beginning and why did it take 7 years for me to see the light? I find now that my tears are not for the lost relationship, but for my hurt and allowing myself to be hurt.
I could never tell my friends and family about the emotional abuse. They know I am a very smart, strong, woman and would never believe how many times I went back to him (many times, I did not tell anyone we broke up again) or how he could make me want to scream with his nonsense. I just feel exhausted by it all.
Glad I found you all-I need to get back to life and have the flashbacks stop.