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Whilst i was in the nightmare ride with toad, i found my boundaries not only slipped with him but near enough everyone else too! I have a VERY arrogant and bullying boss who i found very hard to 'stand up to', and even family members i found hard to hold my own with. I would try to be so agreeable with everyone and everything, i sometimes felt like i was drowning trying to please everyone!just couldnt say no.
I was never like that before toad. I have always been kind and caring, and will help anyone out, but if anyone pushed me into something i didnt want to do, i could stand my ground.
Finally, all but 3 month's away from the reptile, the old me is coming back. PHEW! I no longer let my boss bully me or anyone else for that matter, and have remembered how to say a polite but firm no when necessary!I must admit it feels bloody great!! Although there are a few people that are a bit shocked at the change, including Mr boss lol.
Still amazes me how much the disordered ones take from you.
Anyone relate to this?
x
Shit yeah, we all tolerate way too much crap
April 28, 2012 - 9:49am — Trainwreck56from them, in the name of love??? ECCH
I always tried to establish boundaries with PSYCHO but he would bust them all, time after time! He was not capable of respect nor did he know what the word even meant!
The people I deal with are not NARCS, my work environment is full of empaths and very special people, we all work very hard to get people the assistance they need and deserve!
We are 3 months out of the shit storm together, I'm getting stronger by the day, so are you!
WAY TO GO WOMAN! HUGS!
SO MR. BOUNDARY BUSTER CAN GO BACK TO HELL WHERE HE CAME FROM!
P.S I hope your X-NARC busts his head open soon! LOL
Broken Ribs, F'HIM!
NCNCNC
TW
Tyhanks TW!
April 28, 2012 - 10:38am — sweetpeasarahYep me and you about the same NC wise, and i agree getting stronger and easier every day! Thank god!
Like you i tried having boundaries with the 'thing' but he would just move the goal posts some more!
Hope we dont get any more 'Dyson' moments from the idiots, hopefully they have got the message..LOVE DONT LIVE HERE ANYMORE...so jog on jerks lol
Hugs to you
xx
I'm still thinking hopefully they will contact us and
April 28, 2012 - 12:03pm — Trainwreck56say that they are going to kill themselves! LOL
They are DEAD ALREADY!!!!
Hey X-NARC OF SWEET PEA..GO BUST YOURSELF UP!
LOL
HUGS
TW
Sweetpea
April 27, 2012 - 12:44pm — BritYes absolutely the same for me too. I couldn't say boo to a goose !!
Suddenly noticing how people are walking all over me because I am sooooo accommodating. Well bit by bit so called friends have started to take note that I am no longer putting up with it. I have some lovely friends and they are cheering me on. I am so grateful for my real friends.
I have had a lot of anger in me and this is showing itself when people start to take advantage. Whoops I am not quite so nice now !!
Brit x
Pretty good
April 27, 2012 - 12:47pm — sweetpeasarahfeeling isnt it Brit! No more Mrs Doormat for us!!
xx
Sweetpea
April 27, 2012 - 1:13pm — BritI think we have so much in common with these horrible shared experiences.
I too work with a mini narc, he is a lot younger and thinks he is way too clever to take orders from me, even though I am a director of the company. He deliberately mumbles at me so that I have to keep asking him to repeat himself, otherwise I have no clue what he is saying. He doesn't do this with anyone else. He turns his back to me too so I cant even lip read. It's so annoying, but transparent narc behaviour to me now that the light bulb went on.
I am spotting them all over the place. HA HA
Brit x
Indeed!
April 27, 2012 - 12:27pm — Janie53Did you read my post on weeds?
Stay true!
Janie
Hi Janie
April 27, 2012 - 12:37pm — sweetpeasarahHave just read it, what a wonderful post! exactly how im feeling.. taken the toad experience to face my issues and sort out the 'weeds'! You are so right. I have always had a tendency to cling to relationships with men, friends and family even that i shouldnt have. Surrounded myself with negativity. That is slowly changing, and i agree with you it is painful at times but necessary, i am determined to stay true to me for probably the first time in my life. Better late than never!
hugs
x
Sweetpeasarah
April 27, 2012 - 12:46pm — Janie53You brought a much needed smile to my face!
Stay true!
xxxooo
Janie