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Mr. Rage
Tar Heel Blue
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Mr. Rage
Posted April 26, 2012 - 12:25pm
TW called it exactly right, almost to the DAY! One month ago was the last time I got a call (didn't answer) from the exN, who left me a voice mail. He was visiting one of "our" places, and my presence was everywhere, he loved me, blah blah blah lie lie lie. Anyway, that was Mr. Nice Guy. TW predicted that in about a month, I'd hear from Mr. Rage.
Today, I got a call on my cell phone from a phone number I didn't recognize, at ALL. Not even in our same area code. So, I didn't answer. There was a voice mail message, so I listened to it. I know, I know...BUT at this point, if it was the N, I knew I could handle whatever bullshit he tried to hand me. I should have just hung up when I heard his voice, but I was curious to see if Mr. Rage would make an appearance.
Oh, yes, he did. It went something like: "I can't believe you would cut off all contact with ME! I can't believe you don't want to know what's going on in my life, and you don't want me to know what's going on in YOURS! I can't believe you won't have anything to do with ME! My testosterone levels are back to normal! I'm not fucking anybody, but I'm jacking off three or four times a day! I can make myself come 2 times in 45 minutes! I can't believe you won't take my call! I'm going to the beach next month, no one is going with me, I was hoping we could hook up. If I don't hear from you, I'll leave you alone!" (Famous last words, I heard that last time.) Then, "I know you're trying to "get over" me and I know what that means (implying that I've found someone else, that was intended to make me call him and defend myself.) "I just can't believe you're doing this to ME!"
Did that cause me any grief whatsoever? Nope. Did it intimidate me into contacting him, or responding to him in any way? Not a BIT! All it told me is that this NC thing is DOING ITS JOB! And made me even more determined to keep it up.
So, Mr. Nice Guy didn't work, and Mr. Rage didn't stir up a single emotion in me at all. Nada. This was his second attempt at hoovering in a month, but it probably won't be the last. Wonder which guy will show up next? Mr. Apologetic? Still haven't met him yet.
Still staying true to myself, Janie, and TW...still NCNCNC!
Thanks.
THB
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Tar Heel Blue
April 27, 2012 - 7:51am — Janie53You are a shining star! Keep twinkling!
You are staying true to you! What a great feeling!
Much love and respect to you,
Janie
Thanks, Janie
April 27, 2012 - 9:22am — Tar Heel Blueand right back at YOU!
Your encouragement is one thing that has helped me come this far.
Love to you too!
THB
Good for you, for staying
April 26, 2012 - 8:44pm — JourneyGood for you, for staying true to you and NC!! :)
Simply incredible.
Thank you, Journey
April 26, 2012 - 9:00pm — Tar Heel Blueyou've been a great help to me, and others here.
Good for YOU, too, for all the same reasons! Keep up YOUR good work!
THB
Baby
April 26, 2012 - 5:10pm — BritThe baby is throwing a tantrum !
ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME
So obvious when you have the knowledge.
Knowledge = power.
Brit x
I know, Brit...
April 26, 2012 - 8:12pm — Tar Heel Bluewaaaah, waaaah, waaah! You're not adoring ME! Your world doesn't revolve around ME! You're not supposed to care about anything but ME ME ME ME ME!! Look at ME! I'm a two-year-old! Ooops, I peed my pants.
LOL
Knowledge = POWER! And more knowledge = LOTS MORE POWER!
It's awesome.
xoxoxo
THB
Tar...Keep this tune in your
April 26, 2012 - 3:35pm — LoserFreeTar...Keep this tune in your head!! Oh I did change one word in the first line lol
I Can See Clearly Now
I can see clearly now the Narc is gone,
I can see all obstacles in my way
Gone are the dark clouds that had me blind
It's gonna be a bright (bright) bright (bright)
Sun-Shiny day.
I think I can make it now, the pain is gone
All of the bad feelings have disappeared
Here is the rainbow I've been praying for
It's gonna be a bright (bright), bright (bright)
Sun-Shiny day.
We had a choir sing this at
April 27, 2012 - 12:40am — Healingslowly_b...We had a choir sing this at our wedding for when we left the ceremony, less than two years ago. When we broke up he posted the first line as his Facebook status!!!! I've not been able to even think about this song without feeling so sick and just crying .......... But you've just changed that, this version is the one I will think of now. Thank you xxxxxx
Love it!
April 26, 2012 - 3:39pm — Tar Heel BlueThanks! It's perfect.
I forgot to change the 2nd
April 26, 2012 - 3:46pm — LoserFreeI forgot to change the 2nd verse to Narc is gone...lol
Your strength inspires me, Tar!!
Huge hugs for your continued NC
LoserFree
Thank you
April 26, 2012 - 3:51pm — Tar Heel BlueLoserFree!
And I am and will continue to be LOSER FREE as well!
xoxoxo
THB
It's only been 5 days NC for
April 26, 2012 - 4:03pm — LoserFreeIt's only been 5 days NC for me. I may need you to give me a huge kick in the ass one day..or Hunter...LOL
LoserFree
You're doing great
April 26, 2012 - 5:16pm — Tar Heel Bluedon't break your streak! I promise you, even for the short time I've been NC, it DOES get easier. Every day is a little bit better than the last.
If you are thinking about breaking NC, DO WHAT I DID A FEW DAYS AGO AND POST ON THIS FORUM! We will talk you down.
And if you need a swift kick in the ass, or to be reminded of what it WILL BE LIKE if you contact him again, we are able to do that, too!!
NC really does work. See? I'm an example!
Hugs and keep up the good work!
THB you are making me laugh
April 26, 2012 - 5:49pm — LoserFreeTHB you are making me laugh my ass off!!! I know what you are all capable of doing if I remotely post "I think he means it this time, I really miss him, do you think he's really a Narc, but he says he loves me and he realizes I'm the only one that every truly cared about him" I wouldn't be able to sit for a week...hahahahahahaha!!!
Just for shits and giggles...Narcs would have been great on the TV show "What's My Line" LOL
Hugs
LoserFree
We would never
April 26, 2012 - 8:20pm — Tar Heel Bluefigure out their LINE because we are human and they AREN'T!!!
Oh, sweetie, we would set your ass straight if you even hinted at thinking that he may not be a narc! He "loves" you and "misses" you and blah blah blah bullshit bullshit bullshit..we've all heard that and fallen for it at least once, but you bet your ass we won't do it again. And we won't let YOU do it again, either!
You're worth more than that. You deserve better than that. You can't really love him because HE DOESN'T EXIST!!! I'm the mom of a 28 year old daughter, I CAN and WILL kick your ass if you fall for that loser's shit anymore!!!
You're among sisters, honey, take advantage of what we have learned from the hell we've gone through. We won't let you go there.
THB
PS I can give a pretty damn good butt whipping if necessary!
should have had that butt
April 26, 2012 - 9:38pm — LoserFreeshould have had that butt whipping years ago!!! But a good thing I didn't because I would have been dead. My head was too far up my ass then. I guess that explains why I didn't see him for the scum of the earth that he is!!!
I Cherish you and your support!!!
I will send you my address if needed....key is under the mat! lol
The song "Jive Talkin'" just popped in my head Am I nuts or does everyone here just bring out the need to find humor? going to post the lyrics check it out
xoxo
LoserFree
I wouldn't have been interested
April 27, 2012 - 7:32am — Tar Heel Bluein whipping anyone years ago, I had my head in the same place you did, just a different guy! We've all done our time in that particular black hole.
I think that, for some of us, relying on our sense of humor is the only way we can get through this ordeal without completely losing our minds. I'm just finding the humor in my life returning, and it feels so good. The thing about narcs is, they don't HAVE a sense of humor. They may pretend to at times, but it's fake, just like everything else about them. I once told my exN that my friends thought I was funny and he said, "OK, if you're funny, tell a joke." A joke? He just didn't get it.
They took plenty from us, but they didn't take our laughter. And they can't take anything else!
So many songs come to mind, and take on all new meanings now. "I Am Woman" is one, too. :)
Keep up the good work, sweetie, we've got your back!
THB
Thanks for having my
April 27, 2012 - 9:27am — LoserFreeThanks for having my back!!
Love to YOU
LoserFree
Its early in NC-DO NOT CAVE IN!!!!!
April 26, 2012 - 4:11pm — Trainwreck56I broke a 62 day NC the last time, and he was horrible!
WORSE! A TOTAL F'ING LUNATIC!
Please don't go back, your life will be hell!!!
I'm over 90 days NC now, and the benefits are worth the pain
of it ALL!
HUGS...
TW
POST HERE F-HIM! REALLY!
I DO NOT want to cave in...no
April 26, 2012 - 4:30pm — LoserFreeI DO NOT want to cave in...no Fucking way!
I came here for one reason and one reason only....To be LOSERFREE
this is the first time I have done the NC. He is used to a daily text regardless of new supply. Eventually he is going to say WTF where is my little doormat???
Hopefully that day will never come...hopefully OW will supply him forever...
But if it does happen please be there for me!!!
xoxo
LoserFree
We will
April 26, 2012 - 8:23pm — Tar Heel Bluealways be here for you when you need us. Just like those who have gone before us.
This is an awesome network of people who really DO care about you and what you're going through. We've all been there and we don't want YOU there ever again.
Read read read and learn learn learn! Ask questions and take all the advice you can get. You're in the right place!
We will
April 26, 2012 - 8:23pm — Tar Heel Bluealways be here for you when you need us. Just like those who have gone before us.
This is an awesome network of people who really DO care about you and what you're going through. We've all been there and we don't want YOU there ever again.
Read read read and learn learn learn! Ask questions and take all the advice you can get. You're in the right place!
I think you have a great handel on his CRAP!
April 26, 2012 - 4:41pm — Trainwreck56I WILL AND WE ALL WILL TALK YOU OUT OF EVER TALKING TO THAT
BASTARD AGAIN, THEY ARE RUTHLESS, WILL TRY TO WEAR YOU DOWN!
THE OW WILL GET STALE, AND HE WILL GET BORED, AND HE WILL HOOVER, DO LIKE I DO, IGNORE.......BE PREPARED HE WILL BE BACK, MORE THAN ONCE TO SUCK YA BACK IN!
YOUR DOING GREAT...ITS HARD..BUT WE CAN RUN THOSE BASTARDS
INTO THE GROUND WITH NC, AND THE PLUS SIDE OF NC...NO MORE
ABUSE AND SPINNING AND PAIN!
PEACE AND FREEDOM.......
HUGS TO YOU MY FRIEND!!
NC
TW
That Man's a friking P.I.G!
April 26, 2012 - 3:41pm — Trainwreck56Mine was also, got more piggish as time went on!
Just stay NC, IGNORE-ITS ALL BULLSHIT, LOW ON SUPPLY!
HIS HANDS ARE ALL U LEFT HIM WITH! LOL
GOOD FOR YOU!
NCNCNC
TW
Tee hee!
April 26, 2012 - 3:50pm — Tar Heel BlueAs the Geico TV commercial says,
"Ewwww. Seriously? Dude, that is so totally gross."
EWWWW!
April 26, 2012 - 3:07pm — ruby01Looks like you're really missing out on something good?!
I guess
April 26, 2012 - 3:20pm — Tar Heel Bluethat was supposed to tempt me, Ruby. How could I resist THAT??
LOL
this is good to read, for
April 26, 2012 - 2:41pm — Deidre99this is good to read, for those who wonder if they ever change. um...noooo!
lol
what on earth does his test levels have to do with you and anything under the sun? lol that part made me laugh.
i guess that means, he's horny and you should come a runnin? hahaha
they are pathetic creatures.
and ladies and gents. without that phone call, that is what is going through their heads. they truly CAN'T BELIEVE we have gone silent on them. so even if you never get that phone call? if yours has left you alone? rest assure, this is the script playing in his/her head. that they simply can't believe we wouldn't be sitting around pining over them.
good for you tar heel! staying nc is the way to be! :)
I think that's what he was saying
April 26, 2012 - 3:07pm — Tar Heel Blueabout his test levels, Deidre. As in, I need some, I don't have anyone else, you ain't here, I have to do it myself, cause I've got all this testosterone that has to be used for something!! Poor me, I can't help myself! (I had to laugh at that part too, like that was going to make a difference to me!)
Clearly, his current supply is unavailable at the moment. He can't wrap his head around the fact that his backup supply has completely cut herself off from him. That's NEVER happened to him before. He's always been the one doing the leaving. This time is different.
Deidre is right, this is what NC does to them. Oh, how good it feels!!
They never do change and never will. In their minds, it will ALWAYS be about them. I can't believe I don't give a shit! Hahahahaha!!!
There's been a lot of ex's
April 26, 2012 - 3:12pm — Deidre99There's been a lot of ex's coming unglued lately, seeing from the stories in here. lol
i'm so happy for you that you don't give a shit. he sounds a lot like my ex, blunt in gross ways. lol
ugh. good riddens!
Sounds like he has all he
April 26, 2012 - 2:41pm — HunterSounds like he has all he needs.. A right and a left hand ..
Even at that.. Those words were all about him..
And clearly. SILENCE = FUCK you..
Hunter
Exactly
April 26, 2012 - 3:10pm — Tar Heel Blueand it sounds like he's doing just fine with that. :)
I can't believe anyone else could ever do it well enough for him, anyway.
And now, he CAN'T BELIEVE that I haven't called him back!
NC does equal FUCK YOU.
I am loving this.
He says the exact same things
April 26, 2012 - 1:13pm — The Narcissists...I am feeling empowered by being NC. Glad you have found your resolve to stay NC too, no matter what he says & does to hoover and manipulate you. Your NarcEX sounds exactly, word for word, like mine. What Planet are these guys from???!! Honestly!
It took a few painful lessons of breaking NC, but once you get the hang of it, and STAY NC, it is a powerful element towards healing. In fact absolutely essential.
When my 'Mr Rage' was in one of his rages, he would be 'offended' by my simply asking how he was feeling. No kidding. Unreal. And he used to bang the phone repeatedly on the counter then slam it down and hang up on me...of course not before he first said a barrage of hurtful nasty denigrating things...He did this more frequently towards the end of out relationshit. Well, the last time he screamed at me, blamed me for 'leaving such a great guy as himself and ruining our perfect 'love story'...and slamming the phone and hung up on me...I was in the middle of the grocery store in the soup aisle...and I actually stood there holding my cell phone and wondered WTH was I doing EVER allowing this BOZO to treat me like this. He made no sense at all.
I wanted my dignity back, my self esteem and to feel whole again and happy again....more than I ever wanted or needed this sick interaction ever again. Been NC ever since. And it feels GOOD!!!!
yes, one does feel empowered
April 26, 2012 - 3:34pm — Deidre99yes, one does feel empowered with NC. it definitely puts us back in the driver seat of our own lives.
at first it might seem daunting, because we have been a passenger for so long, we forgot how to control our own lives.
so happy for all you ladies and gents keeping nc real and true!
I'm proud of YOU
April 26, 2012 - 3:17pm — Tar Heel Bluefor breaking that cycle of abuse. I got that same kind of treatment, too, and I'd hold the phone, staring at it in disbelief.
Clearly they are from the same mold. Sounds like they're the same GUY. How dare you disrupt his universe by reclaiming your dignity??
I realized today when I heard that message that I DO feel better about myself, my self-esteem and confidence are returning, and that, as I have heard before, NC is its own best revenge.
It works!
Thanks everybody, for encouraging me and all the others to remain NC. It truly is the best, and only, way to break free.
Yuck- sounds like mine too...........
April 26, 2012 - 1:19pm — LaylaCrazy, nasty, nonsensical talk....mine did the exact same thing.......so disgusting, and so glad to be out of it. Amen!
love~ Layla
Absolutely crazy
April 26, 2012 - 2:57pm — Tar Heel Bluenarc-speak! After being away from it for a month, I can see it as clear as day.
And I too am glad to be away from it, Layla!
Very Predictable, IGNORE...The Hooverng gets old
April 26, 2012 - 1:03pm — Trainwreck56after awhile, tired of it!
Wish he woul find some new supply, or jump off a bridge, one ot the other! LOL
tw
He's got the supply
April 26, 2012 - 1:10pm — Tar Heel BlueI have no doubt. Had THEM before I dumped his narc ass. He just doesn't have ME, the good old back-up, anymore. And boy is that pissing him off!
Guess the only thing he can do is find that bridge...hahahaha!!!!
We can only hope they find that Bridge
April 26, 2012 - 1:46pm — Trainwreck56there are many over the HUDSON RIVER HERE, HE CAN TAKE HIS PICK! LOL
TW
TW
April 26, 2012 - 2:59pm — HunterIf you see the Dog Whisperer make sure you give him a little push over the bridge for me.. Tell him Hunter sent you !!
I'm kidding .. Welll... Umm ...
Teehee
Shit, yes, I;'d put my foot up his ass for you Hunter!
April 26, 2012 - 3:33pm — Trainwreck56Then push him off the bridge! Your not kidding, tee heeee!
LOL
NC
We live
April 26, 2012 - 8:26pm — Tar Heel Bluekind of far away from the Hudson River, but I'll buy his plane ticket!
Ha!
We can out up a sign that reads:
April 27, 2012 - 3:01am — Trainwreck56NARC JUMP ZONE, LOL!!
TAKE A FLYING LEAP PIGS!!!!
THEY ARE ALL SO DELUSIONAL!
TW
Yeah, he lost me as back up too! LOL
April 26, 2012 - 1:45pm — Trainwreck56At least WE did the Dumping, I think they will just stick around as long as you put up with the shit!
I slam dunked him, he though he has It made in the shade, hAd his cake and was eating it too! NO MORE!!
TW
ho hum, THB...so predictable...
April 26, 2012 - 12:39pm — spinningand so very All About Him.
Wow, that message would just make any woman swoon...NOT.
If it weren't so pathetic it would be hilarious...in fsct, it is hilarious.
Poor poor him. Boo Hoo. You big meany you.
Ugh.
Textbook. This is how they work and this is what happens when you change the script!
Congrats for breaking free of an old pattern that brought you nothing but chaos and confusion. No contact all the way!
Love,
(not) spinning. JUST GRINNING AT THE PATHETICNESS OF THAT OH SO LAME MESSAGE
Yes, dear (not) spinning!
April 26, 2012 - 1:20pm — Tar Heel BlueI've often thought that everything I've read about narcs was written about HIM!
It surprised me that I was also amused by this pathetic attempt. But now I'm able to see it for what it is, and realize that everything about his behavior at this point is so very predictable. Now when I think about it, i want to laugh out loud, after I throw up in my mouth a little bit.
He can't believe I'm not making a beeline straight for him with my pants around my ankles, literally and figuratively. Never again. Pattern broken.
NC works, ladies! This is proof. I'm at 28 days and not breaking it for his sorry ass!
THB
Mine texted. "Guess you are
May 1, 2012 - 4:47am — bluegirlMine texted. "Guess you are finally through with my shit, eh?" It was so tempting to text back YES, but I didn't, lol.