Picked the wrong day to start "GETTING IT"

Picked the wrong day to start "GETTING IT"
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After reading numerous posts last night from veterans pleading with us newbies to stop obsessing about the OW, I decided to listen to their adivice and make it about ME today. So I get up, call the salon and make an appointment for a pedicure (which I love)!

Well..............when I get to the salon and open the door i glance over and see one of my XN's former OW getting a manicure. Then halfway through my pedicure another one of his former OW walks in for a pedicure and sits 2 seats away from me. I am thinking to myself are you fucking kidding me??? I have been coming here for 5 years and I never seen them once...didn't even know they came there!! I could feel they anxiety coming on and just wanted to bolt out of there...wet feet and all!!! Seriously, what would be the chances of 2 of my XN's OW being there the day I decide to stop obsessing about it??

I was really so pumped to start my day with a new outlook. It was finally sinking in after last nights posts that I need to put the focus on ME not OW. What a setback! I took one baby step forward and 10 GIANT steps back!!!

Trying to be strong and get those toxic thoughts out of my head!!

LoserFree

goldie's picture

HELLO, the Universe is SCREAMING at you

If you even get tempted to GO BACK remember this day. He is NOT faithful to you by any stretch.

These are your Angels Sister, no doubt in my mind.

This was NOT a bad day, this may have been the best day of your life.

Major WAKE UP call.

God bless,
Goldie

Snowflake's picture

Wow Goldie

I am a huge huge believer in the power of the universe/signs and your post is EXACTLY what I thought too.

And notice it was the exes who came in..what does that tell you? That he treats everyone the same, those girls could have been feeling exactly the same as you..new start, new day..they could have been just as affected and be thinking the same.

Weird how the world works.

My wake up call will seem stupid but my daughters hamster has escaped, my daughter is devastated. She is ten and cuddles and talks to her hamster every night.

I made a promise to God that if he could just make hamster come back I will sort my life out.

Last night hamster appeared for a few seconds ..she is in the wall cavity, my hub saw her, she ran forward sat on her hind legs, looked at him then dashed back in the hole. After many hours sat on cold tiled floors/pulling loft insulation out, praying and hoping for her to return, I am sure that was a sign. She hasnt reappeared and she can get round a big area of the house now she is in the cavity.

My little girl is so upset, it makes you think about whats important.

goldie's picture

Nice post Snowflake

You are getting there. Concentrate on your daughter she it your true light.

God bless,
Goldie

LoserFree's picture

If I ever get tempted to go

If I ever get tempted to go back I will be reaching out to my sisters for strength!!!
They are always there to give you a kick in the ass when you need one. I have seen that from other posts.

God Bless to you as well

LoserFree

Trainwreck56's picture

What a cluster F! Well check out a new NAIL SALON!

F-the OW and the other HO too, remember YOU are no longer
SUPPLY, BIG HUGS FOR THAT!

THAT'S AWFUL, YOU WALKED OUT LIKE A LADY, DON'T EVEN ACKNOWLEDGE THEY EXIST!
UGH..

The OW probably does not even have a CLUE, whats she is in for...Look at the whole situation as shit happens!

What doesn't kill you will make you stronger!

NC, remember, when he screws every thing up with the OW, he will be hoovering, and you'll be ready after the nail salon incident!

NC FOREVER!

TW

BtrflyGrl's picture

TW

I still haven't been to the grocery store since I got confirmation of Deli Girl Supply. I've been living on trikets and top ramen :(...In my situation there is only one in town. We used to go in their together all the time so all the workers know us as a couple. Now I'm sure they all know he's seeing her. It makes me want to barf. Ugh!

LoserFree's picture

Wow this really is a f*d up

Wow this really is a f*d up day!!! I just got a text (out of the blue) from a woman I know in town's XH. I bumped into her a couple years back and she was telling me what a Narcissistic Asshole he was to her and her children. Telling me all the crazy shit he did to them.

I just looked down at my phone and it's a text from HIM...He writes "Hey dinner 2nite". First of all how the hell did he get my number!!! Secondly, who asks a woman out by saying "Hey dinner 2nite" to a woman you know casually through other people?

Ya...sign me up for that date!! NOT!!

LoserFree

LoserFree's picture

More like projectile vomit in

More like projectile vomit in asshole's face!! Better idea, Eh??

BtrflyGrl's picture

Worse yet, he lives across

Worse yet, he lives across the street from the parking lot. I'm telling you - never travels far for New Supply. So even if he wasn't doing Deli Girl I'd still have to risk running into him by being so close to his house. Projectile, head spinning, pea soup vomit! I HATE HIS FUCKING GUTS.

LoserFree's picture

It wasn't XN's current OW he

It wasn't XN's current OW he lives with now. These 2 were prior OW who he left me for towards the end of our 9 year "relationship". The one OW hates me because of an incident happened a year ago. My XN and I had broken up for about 3 weeks (his call of course) and one night I was out with some friends at a neighborhood restaurant/bar. Well in comes Mr. Hot Pants and sits down at a booth. I had one too many martini's and the next thing I know I am sitting in the booth next to him and we were all over each other(disgusting to think of now). Anyway, he had brought this OW woman there because he was dating her at the time. I had no clue he was dating anyone let alone that he there with her that night. We ended up leaving and going to his house(I must have been so horny) and I stayed the night. The next day my phone was ringing off the hook. And that was the first I heard he was with this OW on a date. I was told she was watching us from the bar, watched us leave, and she had to find a ride home. There were tons of people we all knew there that night so I can't imagine how humiliated she must have felt. Oh well, not my problem anymore. It happens to the best of us!!

Just another reminder of how the Narc only cares about HIMSELF!!

Hugs

Loserfree

Hunter's picture

I'm sorry which other woman

I'm sorry which other woman are you obsessing about?. Sounds like there are many..

I think it was a sign to really start paying attention to real wolf in sheeps clothing..

Hunter

LoserFree's picture

These 2 OW that he left me

These 2 OW that he left me for during the 9 years we were together. Not current OW he is living with now. Looking back it seemed to be a pattern with XN. 7 or 8 months together and 3 or 4 with OW. Then back to me again crying about what a mistake he made. And how he realized I am the only woman that truly cares about him and loves him. Blah, Blah, Blah and more fucking Blah!!!!!!!!!

This Little Red Riding Hood is NOW taking a different path through those woods.... NO MORE BIG BAD WOLF for me!!!!!

xoxo

LoserFree

Used's picture

OR MAYBE YOU DID PICK THE

OR MAYBE YOU DID PICK THE RIGHT DAY, COS FATE DECIDED, OK DEAL WITH THIS, AND YOU DID WITH DIGNITY....
WAY TO GO..

Janie53's picture

LF

We are all OW! Something we need to get used to.

Stay true!
Janie

BtrflyGrl's picture

LoserFree

That is horrible. How big is your town? Geeze it sounds like mine. These guys are such total pigs. They really need to spread out a little. I'm telling you mine never walked more than 2 blocks for new supply. It is not your fault and you shouldn't feel bad. They were duped just like you were.

Deidre99's picture

Oh no! lol That's

Oh no! lol That's horrible.

Well, it's like this. If you're on a diet, you are gonna have to go to a party at some point, and there might be cake there. You have to avoid it, though.

So. Likewise, this will make you TOUGHER, girlie! You're gonna be so strong after all this, you'll never be swindled again.

You're doing great. Don't even think of this as a setback, anymore than cake being on a table, at a party, while you're on a diet.

Strength doesn't come easy. You gotta fight your way through to get stronger. If it were easy, we wouldn't need one another here. Hang tough!

jaime17's picture

Maybe that was the universe's

Maybe that was the universe's way of showing you could face not one, but TWO OW and get through it okay. You DIDN'T bolt out of there, you held your own with dignity, and that's what matters. What are the odds you'll run into two OW at once again? Now you know you can handle it. Don't let it derail your "ME" train, let it empower you. :)

LoserFree's picture

I know I can handle it and I

I know I can handle it and I will NEVER let it derail me on the path to my recovery!! Just don't feel so empowered at the moment.

I sat there with a magazine in my hand for an hour and honestly I wouldn't be able to tell you one thing that was in it. LOL

Thanks for your support
Hugs

LoserFree

bluegirl's picture

Honestly, the only thing I

Honestly, the only thing I can feel for them is pity. I wish i could hug them and tell them that in a couple months when they can't figure out why things aren't right, and they feel like they are losing their minds....it isn't them.

Deidre99's picture

The bigger question is? How

The bigger question is? How did your pedicure turn out? What color did you get?

I miss pedicures. I need one!

LoserFree's picture

It turned out great...I got

It turned out great...I got Mod About You.. by OPI..

Now THAT was funny!!! Thanks for the laugh!

:) :) :) :)

LoserFree

Deidre99's picture

Mod about you...hahaha That's

Mod about you...hahaha That's great!

Pedicures are so wonderful, I never understood why the polish lasts so much longer when they do it than me. :P

(((hugs)))

LoserFree's picture

I don't either but it's so

I don't either but it's so true. Plus they do a much better job than I could ever do!! haha

Hugs Back

LoserFree

BtrflyGrl's picture

I totally need one too! It

I totally need one too! It is sandal season and I've been wearing the same ugly black shoes for two years.

LoserFree's picture

It feels great too! Take off

It feels great too! Take off those old black shoes and go treat yourself, girl!! Just scope out the place before you walk in. LOL

LoserFree