I know it will take a long time (in my case four years) to get over this all-demanding and in every way exhausting period, but be sure: Finally you will meet your real true self! Undergoing a narcissist is not only a lesson you will profit from for the rest of your lives but it is also a mirror that shows you the deeply wounded parts of yourselves that still need to be healed!
Go the whole way and finally (re)find yourselves!
Never ever go back!!!
A lot of love and best wishes,