Why do N's have a Last Feeding Frenzy?
"WOW" my EX-NARC must have been so very "Narc intelligent." He picked Valentine's Day. I don't think the CIA could have planned a NARC's LAST FEEDING FRENZY, any better.
No worse day for me, being the extremely romanitic person I am. (he knew this) At the time, I was not aware of what a narcissist was nor did I know my ex was one. I just thought I had fallen in love with the world's biggest JERK.
My EX at the time of Valentines Day was ALREADY my EX. I had ended our relationship on January 5, 2012. "I" being the KEY WORD. My fatal mistake with my Narc.
I was doing well/normal about getting past our January break up and the 18 months of hell he put me through. He and I had broken-up a couple times before January. But MY January break was permanment. It was to be. If I had known he was a "N" at the time, I would NOT have kept in contact with him, and it would have saved me a lot of heart and a nervous break-down.
Valentine's Day 2012... My ex called me and gave me a 20 minute notice of his arrival to MY doorstep. He was not invited or expected.
I allow him into MY home. He spends 3 days breaking me down. He tells me ALL the right things and cries and begs for my heart. He makes me new promises. I gave in. He now has my precious heart, once again. He is a coward. MY NARC STOLE MY HEART.
My ex leaves me and my bed to travel his 3 hour drive home on February 16, 2012. My EX BOYFRIEND becomes my EX NARC within 2 hours of traveling home. MY EX NARC calls me and is a completely person. He seems to have amneia because he seems to have forgotten the last 3 days we spent . He said, "I made love, he was just there." He does not want to date me or anyone. The list goes on of promises he is braking. OMG! After those cruel words he blocks me from his phone and his life. No closure. No answers. Nothng but SILENCE SINCE.
That was the beginning of MY 35 days of pure emotional agony and hell. I had a nervous break-down, I do believe.
I am needing and wanting some clarification on this "LAST FEEDING FRENZY" CONCEPT. Why did he have to come to me when I was just about over him? Was it because I had stopped pursueing him? Was this planned like it seems?
MY EX NARC PLANNED THIS FEEDING FRENZY PERFECTLY. 2 WEEKS LATER HE HAS A NEW SUPPLY IN HIS LIFE.
Please Help me cope and understand... D