Oftentimes the ex Narc in our life caused us so much pain that it is impossible to see ourselves as the loving, gifted, caring people that we are. It is important to note that the end of a Narc relationship has everything to do with his/her disorder and NOTHING to do with you!!! He/she chose you because of your gift of empathy...because you are caring...because you are loving...because you are wonderful. The only mistake you made was giving that gift to someone who could not repay it or even truly acknowledge it...someone who could only take and take and use and use until you felt there was nothing left of "you" to give.
The fact is....you are still there...under sadness, anger, disbelief...you...that wonderful, marvelous person...you are still there. Sometimes it is hard to see it, sometimes it is hard to feel it...but it is still there.
I want to acknowledge every single person on these forums...wherever you are in your journey..I honor the truth about you...I honor the uniqueness of your spirit, the greatness of your heart, the amazing gifts you have inside of you. Do not ever forget how special you truly are.