I THINK I JUST BLEW OFF ANOTHER NARC!!!
A guy has been pursuing me for a couple of months...long story short, I tried to communicate to him in more than one way that I'm just not READY to just jump into something and tried to pace things but all I got from him was word-twisting, self-contradiction, selling himself, manipulation, hints of control-freakishness, of course charm, but he finally said that he would be "gentle" but that he was not gonna give up till I told him to eff off...it all came down to him not respecting my needs and making it ALL ABOUT HIM.
The other night I ignored his last "sorry you had a shitty day...do you need a hug?" after I cancelled a date after deciding he just doesn't sit well with me.
I think he finally gave up!!!! YAY ME!!!!!