is their favorite book. Google it!
Stay true to you!

J.

No, all my ex read was the nasty titles of porn vids and information about how to make lots of money and become a huge snob. Never read any books

One of the observations (not research) I have noticed is that many narcissists do not do well at school, which of course, as adults they are unlikely to admit.

It is highly probable that many narcissists suffer from dyslexia (a form of learning disabilities) which may effect not only their learning abilities, but also their getting along with family and maintaining relationships with friends. This does not mean that they are not bright or intelligent, but it may explain a lot of the "shame" they feel, and why they go to such lengths to hide their difficulties (hense they do not read many books themselves). Their poor self concept would have them very fearful of being labeled stupid or incompetent. Their anxiety and anger masks their fear of being being found out wanting in such a way. It may also explain why they fear being judged or criticized so much, and why they fear failure in front of others. All and any of the above leaves them feeling rejection and abandonment, which is their greatest fear of all. This can lead to their uncontrollable rages.

Narcissists are masters at developing strategies for hiding their disability. For example, their inflated view of themselves is acted out in their grandiose personalities, which are larger than life.

The narcissist is likely to focus on there abilities that do not expose their learning barriers, then in that way them can stand out in company. The also operate from a fake False Self that helps them to look superior and confident, but this is very hard for them to maintain for long. So when the strain becomes too much, rather than risk humiliation, they will terminate a relationship in order to reduce their stress.

The narcissist often cheats or lies about their academic achievements. You are right when you say they want instant gratification, that is one of the reasons why they pursue Narcissistic Supply. If they become aware of someone who has something they want (knowledge, information, power etc.)the person will be seen as superior for a while. The narcissist will want to get that superiority for themselves, especially if it involves gaining more knowledge from that person. They will then go out of their way to gain favour with that person, and before long they will be modelling their every word, deed and action......owning it for themselves. Now feeling superior, the person goes down in their eyes, and they are treated as inferior now..... and they are rejected while the narcissist moves on to fresh ground.

Research does show that there is a connection between learning disabilities and self-regulation problems. Anybody who has had a relationship with a narcissist will tell you that narcissists have difficulties regulating their impulsive thoughts or actions....... they usually have the scars to prove that.

But only books about crime and murders!- shudder now I know what he is!!

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