I Regina I'm a love addict and he's my drug

I Regina I'm a love addict and he's my drug
Posted April 14, 2012 - 12:15pm
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My therapist believes its a love addiction having. And the narc is my 'fix'. Ate codependents more likely to become addictive in relationships? I figured out too he really is a drug to me. I'm ignoring him and everything, but love addiction is treated the same way a any other addiction is treated. My therapist is sending me to a psychiatrist for stress reduction program and psychoanalysis. Do u guys also become really obsessed with the narc? Im feeling withdrawal at the moment. I know its up to me to break this addiction or whatever. I feel a bit crazy too. I know I should hate him but why do I feel like clinging? Sorry if I'm not sounding strong now. I feel weak.

‹ Gone for good? My X-NARC was never into reading.............. ›
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You are strong because you

April 15, 2012 - 6:19pm — Harper03

You are strong because you are seeking help to repair your mind. I am in the same boat. I was told I have an addiction to my exN as well. You will get through this, we all will.

What they did to us is unexplainable. They are the ones that need the help!

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I know all to well the

April 15, 2012 - 5:47pm — kimberly4398

I know all to well the addiction feeling... I hate it, its been 2 weeks for me and I was texting and emailing telling him I would do whatever it takes to fix us. Well he has blocked my number and today is day 2 for me of NC via email. I feel totally clingy, I know he can't be fixed and never will be able to, he will never admit he has a problem..

stay strong...

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Dee30

April 15, 2012 - 5:43pm — Gravity

Yup.

Guess what? HALLELUJAH! You've reached another stage in your recovery, and further validated that you are NOT a narc and he is.

You're questioning the role you played and currently play in this.

It's a hard thing to do, but when we done processing HIM and HIS illness (all about him) it's time to look at OURSELVES.

My ex was a definite psycho/narc/socio whatever, it's all the same and means 1 thing: never never gave a shit.

I explored my own issues of codepencendy and how our relationship was symbiotic in the sense that I gained something from it as well. I was gaining my fix of him, I was gaining a need to be needed, I was gaining a sense of familiarity that was my role within my family with N parents.

It's not easy to look inside yourself, which makes you STRONGER THAN MOST PEOPLE ON THIS PLANET.

Please hold onto that strength and RUN WITH IT!

Sincerely,
"Not falling another moment into your gravity"
-xoxo Gravity

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Dee

April 14, 2012 - 12:27pm — Brit

Yep we have all been addicted, but think of this.. we drive on a particular side of the road and suddenly find ourselves in another country and have to learn to drive on the opposite side. We can drive, what's the problem? It all looks crazy, we feel stupid, but given a little bit of instruction and help we become just as good a driver in this strange country as we are at home.

All it takes is a little bit of time and sometimes a little bit of help and we can retrain our brains to do anything we want.

The confusion he caused you is still there, not in full swing, but in it's death throws. You will feel better soon. Promise.

Brit x

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Disregard 'Regina' lol autocorrect

April 14, 2012 - 12:15pm — Dee30

My bad.

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Dee I was cracking up...I was

April 15, 2012 - 6:23pm — bgirl

Dee I was cracking up...I was like is Regina her new alias name?
Lol...autocorrect is such a huge lol sometimes.

Luv ya. Hope you are doing ok today, and you are in good company Reggie...I too was addicted to a psychopath.

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