Need Some Support

it's been a bad day and my anxiety level is going back up. NPDh is all pissy because I asked if he minds if I go up to a local pub with a group of our friends. One of them got laid off today so we are all lending our support to them. So now he's all snarky and snippy. He has been like this anytime I am getting together with friends or family for about the last year and I'm about getting sick of it. But now he acts like the marriage is in trouble because of me and the fact that I have friends. (the very same family and friends HE use to hang out with me but now he wants nothing to do with). So now my anxiety and guilt is running into high gear. How the heck is he able to illicit this crap from me. I know this isn't my fault or even about me.. but damn he can manipulate my guilt and responsibility points. So now HE's going to go out this weekend. (which of course just feels like manipulative relatiation and of course I'm NOT even invited). That's how it is with him.. I invite him to everything.. he declines to go anywhere with me. He goes out and I am specifically NOT invited. WTF. Okay... words of support needed please. :-)