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Please Help...I am just hurting
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Please Help...I am just hurting
Posted March 19, 2012 - 1:07pm
NC - 1 month and 2 days
I am hurting. He was sweet, then mean, and now sweet again. I make the mistake of reading his emails, but good gawd, he could write emails that anyone could feel and fall in love with. He admits being a jerk, and treatign me bad and pushing me away and etc....
Why can I NOT LET GO!?? Why do I still think there is hope??
I am in tears as I write this...Please,help!
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SAMMYP, THIS TAKES TIME!
March 19, 2012 - 4:46pm — Trainwreck56Your early into NC, the first month tore me up, I did not
cry at first, I cried my eyes out later, then I realized that removing this WICKED MAN from my life is what I had to do!
We are so entrenched with the abuse and bullshit and games
they play, its difficult to see them for what they really are, AT FIRST!
IT DOES GET BETTER! HANG IN THERE!
NC AT LIKE 53 DAYS IS GREAT!
You will have good days and bad days, I think it is really
the DETOX from them that you are feeling, IT JUST TAKES TIME!
HANG IN THERE, LIKE YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON IT, AND IT REALLY DOES!
HUGS
TW
Figuring out what my NH gives
March 19, 2012 - 2:08pm — lmac70Figuring out what my NH gives me that I can not let go of really is helping me in the process of letting go. I realize he figured out what my weaknesses are and used them as a carrot and a stick. The carrot was making me feel wanted and beautiful in a way I had never been before BUT the flip side is the stick is just reaffirming all my bad feelings about myself. Powerful stuff.
You do deserve better. You deserve someone who can make you feel just as loved with no HUGE negative price tag of feeling like crap associated with it.
I got rid of the emails.. as
March 19, 2012 - 1:55pm — tootsgeeI got rid of the emails.. as i found I could analyse and analyse... once they were gone I found it easier to let them go in my head to cos I couldnt go over them...
so sorry for your pain ... x
Sammy
March 19, 2012 - 1:51pm — BritSammy he does not deserve you.. You are a kind caring, loving woman who deserves that back. You are settling for crumbs of affection when he decides to favour you with them. You know in your heart he will change for a while but the mask will slip again and you will once more be left in a state of crazy. I know it's torture to break off, but be kind to yourself, resist the fake act. He can only love himself. All these words of love are just that words. You know what he is like and you can find the strength to break free.
It's extremely hard to let
March 19, 2012 - 1:45pm — SparrowIt's extremely hard to let go. But you must in order to heal. There is so much to learn, to absorb in regards to this disorder and what has happened to you because of your involvement with him.
Read, read, read. Knowledge is power. You need as much knowledge as possible. You will eventually learn so much that you will want to be as far away from this person as possible.
As far as his beautiful emails...........they are just words on paper. ACTIONS speak louder than words. How do you feel after he speaks terribly to you? That is what you must remember and remain focused on.
Good luck my friend! Stay strong and maintain NC at all cost!
sorry for your pain
March 19, 2012 - 1:25pm — fearlessfemale...I'm so sorry that you are hurting honey. It sucks I know. It's because YOU felt REAL LOVE for him and it's the pain from losing this that causes you to hurt so bad.
I thought I was going to die...that my heart had literally broken...but that was Thanksgiving day and now it's getting so much better...SO MUCH! Trust that with a little more time the pain will subside, just feel it, listen to sad songs and cry those eyes out. GET IT OUT!
It will make you feel better and pretty soon you will
be writing to someone offering them hope that they won't
hurt much longer like you are right now.
Hugs and Kisses to you sweet girl.
-fefe
You can't let because you
March 19, 2012 - 1:19pm — HunterYou can't let Go because you have not had ENOUGH!!
When enough is enough you will do what we tell you.
There is no Hollywood ending In Narcville.,
You must cut off all contact . Until then you will always be riding the roller coaster.
I get it.. It hurts. ... staying with him hurts more..
Hunter
This is true
March 19, 2012 - 2:35pm — TheBirdIt's when we have had enough is when we will cut things off. Either that or when they have taken everything from us and we have nothing left....not even our self-esteem.
I have had enough and I will be damned if I let some man take my soul. I have a great heart and so much to offer. I am DONE.
You, too, will have to get to that point to stop accepting his crumbs and BS.
Aw honey
March 19, 2012 - 1:09pm — Snowflakebig hug to you..
Have you wrote down all the bad things he has done to you/the memories of times he hurt you..the times he was mean?
Write down here if you like some of the things he did then we can maybe help you to focus x