So today is 5 months since I left him...Happy Anniversary to me!!! Can I get a whoop - whoop?!?!
Anyway, I have learned sooooo much from this site, Lisa's book and all of the resources offered to me!! I thought I would share the 2 things that have helped me thru this process the most!!!!
NC....as soon as I did this...although hard as hell..impacted me the most in a very positive manner...You basically erase them!!! Perfect!
Boundaries.....I still have to have some contact with my exhusband but I have set boundaries with him which has helped me keep a safe distance so he doesnt rope me in again (like he did on New Years...live and learn)
Boundaries help with dealing with Toxic people (Men) who you either just meet or have contact with. Boundaries have helped me weed out men who want to jump down my pants...weed out men who are manipulative...weed out friends who cause me negativity....
Boundaries have made it possible for me to take control of my life and not be influenced by others..period!!!!
It took a while for me to figure this out, so Im hoping someone can read this, take the info. and run with it!!!
Im getting it...and healing and it feels wonderful!!!