Now that he has announced the engagement, and the June wedding approaches, I am thinking ahead about having to deal with this new person who is under his spell and who "works for him" so to speak.
She will be his wife (yuck) and the step-mother to my children. She is his supply and unpaid Nanny.
Please advise me how to deal with her -- and what to watch out for. I have stopped feeling sorry for her, by the way, since hearing about the engagement. I think of her as the enemy -- as an extension of the Psychopath.
I am completely up for all instruction and guidance on this matter.
I fully expect he'll want us to all participate in some disgusting b.s. family counseling session to help us all "adjust" -- and I've already decided that I won't participate in such a sham unless it is court ordered. Does the court order such non-sense?
I expect that she is already pregnant, or will be very soon. I hope and pray that she has a baby or two or three of her own asap so that she'll get her paws off my children.
I expect that as soon as the Psychopath feels that his new target is trapped, he will start being his true self, including the compulsive working and being away from the house doing Important things that Important people do. I expect that she will carry the bulk of the work of caring for my children.
She seems like a perfectly decent person, sweet and kind -- a duplicate of me in many ways. She has been pumped full, I'm sure, by everyone on his side about How Not To Be Abreva -- so she is doing her best impersonation of being AWESOME -- which is probably pretty easy at this point since he hasn't beaten her down all the way yet.
Bring on the advice, words of wisdom, etc.
Thank you all.