by her Narc.

And it`s so sad and upsetting to watch, it reminded me of my own feelings..

Even though, my last encounter with this friend, she was in a very brainwashing state of mind, and she judged me very much when I needed her, I sent her a message wishing her strength and love.

It`s so dragging to watch a very intelligent, empathetic person being abused and belitted again, and again, and again, and exposing herself again and again to the same predator. She is in this huge rollercoaster, different from day to night, with one ow, a "femme fatale" like one, and herself, for A WHILE now..And she hhas been fighting over this same guy, for years..for years, over different women and so on..

And I as a close friend, with a very close story to hers, have been witnessing, and I couldn`t stand watching her destroying herself again and again..

Being far from the "NC example" and empowerement myself though, I think at some point, we really gotta stop..we can`t kill ALL the OW in this world just because THE GUY thinks only with the brain from his pants!

And to return again and again and again, we really have to stop and look at ourselfs, and ask, "is this really how we want all our lives to be ?"

From what I have researched myself, read, and from experience, everything comes down to self love, and negative messages received from our parents. We have to fill those voids ourselfs, heal the broken soul, before jumping into another relationship and worse, Narc relationship!

I am pretty worried about this friend of mine, I have tried many times to warn her myself and tell her as much as possible to stay away but she didn`t listen. As much as you try to help someone, you can`t live it FOR them..

I can only hope she will stop soon, until it will be too late to stop.

These people have no conscience, and if you let them, they take everything away from you.

Sometimes when I see these rollercoaster and games played, I tend to fall into the thinking "but what if he really loves that type of women, what if.." you know. Well then, I guess my ex Narc, wouldn`t triangulate right now, the "love of his life" with a new woman supply!!

If all their words were to say, true. It`s a different type of man for every woman, but it always ends the same.

I guess what I am trying to say, for myself and other possibly stumbling upon this, is to try as much as possible to focus on YOU and to live your life. To fall in love with you, even if right at this moment, maybe your life is poor, little or insignificant.

As I said, I hope my old friend stops the spin before it`s too late. I can only pray and wish her much strength !

Thank you for reading my post.