Anyone that was with an alcoholic narcissist....

Anyone that was with an alcoholic narcissist....
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Did any of you ever notice that his narcissism was intensified when he was "loaded"?? I remember when he was wasted, MANY COUNTLESS times, that his narcissism was unreal! The projection was increased and even more apparent. All forms of abuse was increased. Selfishness increased even more. It was like an already hyperactive person on speed.

ruby01's picture

I'm with you Phoenix

Mine was worse when drunk. Better though when just buzzed.

Phoenix72's picture

It was like watching two

It was like watching two entirely different people. He was ok when he was just buzzed, actually quite loving and attentive and unselfish. But it's when he right past the edge of buzzed is when the physical abuse would come out. And when he was wasted, it was like he was bipolar as well. For instance, when he was wasted, I would go to leave because I didn't want to be around him and he would start accusing me of leaving because I had to meet some other guy, be even more cruel with his words, be physically abusive but then when I would go to walk towards the door he would stand in front of the door and beg me to stay and work things out. It was like some fucked up episode of the Twilight Zone!

janemarie's picture

Mine was the opposite....I

Mine was the opposite....I was actually relieved when he would start drinking...sometimes I would even bring him his first beer to get him started...He was a happy drunk and I actuallly liked him better when he had a few in him....

Duh Jane.....RED FLAG????????

Im glad I woke up from my coma haha

midnight7's picture

janemarie

my xN was the same and I felt just as you did. It was such a relief when he'd had a few drinks he became more bearable. Indeed, another red flag.

Phoenix72's picture

Not mine...he was extremely

Not mine...he was extremely worse with alcohol in him. He would drink beer and would be fine, it's when he started the vodka. WOW!!! He could drink a liter of vodka in one night! After about the 6th shot in a matter of an hour, that's when the narcissism went full blown! The devaluing always started at that moment.

redsunset13601's picture

Mine didn't drink all that

Mine didn't drink all that much,unless we went out which fizzeled after awhile,casino was our only high light as he has a gambling problem as well, he is a mix of being a N, bipolar, a ex psycho marine and is a methhead! talk about crazy...good god he talked to palmeto bugs (big roaches)thought they were trying to tell him to spray around because there were poision spiders in the house. Which we do live in a state where we do have them type of spiders.

he is also into really weird sprits and all and thought these orbs were coming out of the sky to talk to him, he was out side one night fixing the bike and he looked up in the sky and though 1,000's of orbs were come towards him and his mom was one of them ..she had died a couple years ago.

as i said in another post he made a voodoo doll of me hanging by a nuse with my face picture on it, it hangs in the office (he is self employed) and the office is part of his house, anyway, he would shoot it with a beebee gun or shoot darts at it and would say to me ..hey! you feel that? what a nut case totally crazy.

he got really weird on that crap..thought he was super dick that is what he said lol... he decided to play with his guns he is an excellent shooter. he was a marine (25 years ago) and i was to honor obey and respect the core. while pointing that thing at me,

he liked to try to scare me with it all the time put it to my head more times than i could count and i would simply look him in his cold black eyes and say pull it...i think at that time in my life i was so mentally beaten by this man i didn't care if i lived or died..i showed no fear because that is what he wanted. then he would just laugh at me.

good god sometimes he was so paranoid he would tip the blind down with the barrel of the gun thinking somone was out there.. and he always thought he was a cowboy....

it has only been two months since we split but this sight is great as i write about the last 4 years of my life and i see what i am typing it is like omg! how did i survive being with him? why did i stay so long?

i have so many deep wounds that need healing just so many. this man is just not human ...