First off- he had a girlfriend when I first met him and he asked me out but they were rocky-BIG RED FLAG!!- He courted me with gifts, vacations away and sweet nothings for the first month. Then -Instant relationship!! One night, we were out drinking and we got back to his place where he called me the C-word and the next day apologized all day because he was "drunk." He also was talking about threesomes with me and one of his employees!! EEkkk gross..when I questioned him he told me don't worry that's not what I want..I ignored it...He told me he wanted to "take care of me" and made me dinner at his place all the time and it was very romantic! Gorgeous, successful and the life of the party-everybody loves this man and wants to be with him!! I felt so lucky! He would "joke around" and call me a bitch, whore,slut. i would get upset and he would say "just love me. Don't be mad." He was always very affectionate and loving when we would be laying in bed. At times, in the morning though he would get up fast and leave then call me and say "Did I give you a kiss when I left?" as if I wasn't important enough to make sure he did. He had many good ways such as being very generous and asking if I needed him to pick me up dinner while I was studying or if I needed a back massage..I will say that I did bitch at him a lot about certain things but I feel that they were logical. He grabbed one of his employees breast one day- when I got upset he said."That's my personality and if you can't handle it we shouldn't be together!! That's when he started to devalue me...I could see the texts and calls were less and he was going to the strip club getting lap dances and not telling me until after...The impotence was getting worse and I felt soo unattractive!! I keep blaming myself but then think of all the nasty things he said and realize it was him. He would say "If you loved me you would have a threesome with me." Very manipulative......Does he sound like a Narc or just an asshole????