Jar, this has to be an incredibly frightful thing to be experiencing right now. On top of everything else, you are met with having to deal with this.....

The police here, in the States, do not take kindly to these threats with or without evidence, they will document it. I am not sure if that is the case in other countries, but sure hope it is.

Contacting your sons school was a very important measure to take. And let them know that in no uncertain terms, is anyone to pick your child up, besides you. Give it to them in writing as well. No one but you. And contact your police department and ask to speak to someone in charge that can actually sit down with you, discuss the situation at hand, and advise you on what to do to take the necessary steps to ensure your son, as well as your, security.

The guy coming to your house is creepy......ask the police to do "ride bys" if possible. It could have been a coincidence, but also, maybe not, so stay on guard. Better to be safe than sorry. Not to scare you.......just be aware of your surroundings for now.

Hugs to you my friend.

Comment made in November when he was demanding to know if our son was at school ( this was after 18 mnths of nohing!) after being sarcastic and stating he was too young he said nursey then and I didn't answer and he said " it's not like I'm gonna snatch him or anything is it" and laughed..... I didn't and he quickly changed the subject ... It was only yesterday when I had a strange man knocking on my door asking if he had the right address etc but then was like oh no sorry I'm looking for someone else and smirked I just got this really awful feeling and the convo about snatching our son came back in to my mind !! My exN didn't know where I live as moved last year!!

I don't know if I'm being paranoid but he has said so many things in the past that actually were what he was going to do And they have been that ridiculous I ignored the red flags as the sick arsehole did exactly what he said!

I'm completely NC with him , disabled FB etc... He has been trying to get me to agree private maintenance which I'm not and I know it will be driving him mad that this time I'm saying no mre and standing up to him!

I'm ringing the nursey that my son goes to again today , they may think I'm crazy but I want them all to know about him not just the lady in charge .
Don't think the police would take me seriously I've no evidence but my word...

I know it's a trait that these Narcs love to torment us with what there plans are and that's why I'm feeling so uneasy ...

I realize we are made out to be the crazies but get it documented. The police can document your concerns without actually filing a report. At least you and they have documentation. Don't take any chances esp when kids are involved. just my two cents......