Musical Motivation for us Guys

Musical Motivation for us Guys
Posted February 5, 2012 - 7:17am
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Alrighty, I know this forum doesn't get much traffic and it seems 90% of the guys who post here don't stick around or if the do they don't post much but I'll post anyways.
I spent some time going through my iPod yesterday and I found quite a few songs that lyrically hit the spot. No matter what kinda mood you find yourself in there is some song out there to match it I will post a few that struck a chord with me (pun intended) and maybe they will do the same for you. These songs are a bit more "aggressive" than you might find on the Internet when you are looking for "pick me up" songs if you are down but I find that helps me more than a slow light / sad or inspiring song. Just gets the blood flowing, makes me feel a bit stronger, more defiant about the whole narc situation.

Today's selection comes from Five Finger Death Punch called Never Enough (YouTube it for the song) lyrics are as follows:

I'm so fed up with everyone around me
No one seems to care
I'm just so far gone and nothing's gonna change
I'll never be the same
It's always do this, do that, everything they want to
I don't wanna live that way
Every chance they get they're always pushing me away

It's never enough, no it's never enough
No matter what I say
It's never enough, no it's never enough
I'll never be what you want me to be

It's all so messed up and no one ever listens
Everyone's deranged
I'm just so fucked up and I'm never gonna change
I wanna lay it all to waste
They're always say this, say that, nothing that you want to
I don't wanna live that way
Every chance they get they're always shoving me aside

It's never enough, no it's never enough
No matter what I say
It's never enough, no it's never enough
I'll never be what you want me to be
I'M DONE!

In the end we're all just chalk lines on the concrete
Drawn only to be washed away
For the time that I've been given
I am what I am

(POSTERS NOTE: best lyrics of the song right here)
I'd rather hate you for everything you are
Than ever love you for something you are not
I'd rather you hate me for everything I am
Than have you love me for something that I can't

It's never enough, it's never enough
No matter what I say
It's never enough, no it's never enough
No matter who I try to be
It's never enough, no it's never enough
No matter how I try to taste
It's never enough, never never enough
I'll never be what you want me to be

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New here music is my therepy thought I would share a few songs

March 29, 2012 - 4:03am — JustBecauseYourMean

This is Tool and they are my therapy, once I had a great job a new car and built a house in the country. I met my soul mate, we had been friends and it just happened She was the one I tried not to fall in love with. Now I know why I tried not to she was soul less but now she has mine and the jobs gone the cars gone and im days away from the house being gone. Enjoy the lyrics and links I hope they can help someone as they have me.

http://youtu.be/wSyEkrnsvH8

TOOL Ticks & Leeches

This one makes me want to take back whats mine

Suck and suck. Suckin up all you can suckin up all you can suck.
Workin up under my patience like a little tick.
Fat little parasite. Suck me dry.
My blood is bruised and borrowed. You thieving bastards.
You have turned my blood cold and bitter,
beat my compassion black and blue.

Hope this is what you wanted.
Hope this is what you had in mind.
Cuz this is what you're getting.
I hope you're choking. I hope you choke on this.
I hope you're choking. I hope you choke on this.

Taken all I can taken all I can, we can take. Taken all you can taken you can, we can take.
Got nothing left to give to you.
Blood suckin parasitic little blood suckin parasitic little
blood suckin parasitic little tick
Take what you want and then go.

Suck me dry.

Is this what you wanted?
Is this what you had in mind?
Is this what you wanted?
Cuz this this is what you're getting.
I hope, I hope, I hope you choke.

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Artist: Silverstein Song:

March 6, 2012 - 10:09pm — Gso88

Artist: Silverstein
Song: Smile in Your Sleep
Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WMVIakSf-fU&feature=youtube_gdata_player

Lyrics:

When I'm lying in your bed
Play the motions through my head
You know that I'm thinking, I'm thinking...
And I have reasons to believe that
I'm not the only one you spend this time with, but I'll stay...

You say, you're weak,
You won't let me down,
You won't let me down.
You lie through your teeth,
You smile in your sleep,
You smile in your sleep.

When we met
You said we were the same,
You know that we're different, we're different,
And all the times you promised me that
Everything would work out in the end, you were gravely mistaken

You say, you're weak,
You won't let me down,
You won't let me down.
You lie through your teeth,
You smile in your sleep,
You smile in your sleep.

You lie, you lie, you lie, you lie
You lie through your teeth
You won't let me down,
You lie, I deserve better than this

I dream of steel. Maroon and warm,
Your end (your end), your end (your end)
You gasp for air.
I'll see this through, I'll see through you,
Your pale (your pale), your pale (your pale),
Your pale blue eyes.

When you're lying in your bed,
Your eulogy's been read
You know that it's fitting, you lie.

You say, you're weak,
You won't let me down,
You won't let me down.
You lie through your teeth,
You smile in your sleep,
You smile in your sleep.

You smile, you smile, you smile, you smile
I deserve better than this

Hunter's picture

Thanks for sharing

March 6, 2012 - 11:57pm — Hunter

Thanks for sharing

Gso88's picture

Its been a while BUT here is another song

February 25, 2012 - 9:41am — Gso88

If there was ever a song about a Narc and what they do to you here it is. Its a harsh reminder of what we went through and its hard to call this song a pick me up BUT it does just go again to show you that this is not something we go through alone. I this popped up on a jukebox and I couldn't help but shake my head in agreement the entire time the song was playing.

Artist: Saliva
Song: "How Could You?"
Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9R1ti1n3TdU

I'm addicted to
Every single thing you do
I'm dying inside

Your sucking me down
It makes me feel,
I'm gonna drown
It's killing me now
All you do is bring me down
All this time and all your lies
It has been no surprise
Now I realize it now

[Chorus:]
How could you cheat on me
Then turn your back on me
You told me all the lies and hypnotized and I believed
How could you cheat on me
Then turn your back on me
You told me all the lies and hypnotized and I believed

I'm coming to know all the secrets that you hold
You think I'm a fool and I don't know what you do
But I look in your eyes and I finally realize

In all this time and all your lies
It has been no surprise now I realize and now

[Chorus]
How could you cheat on me
Then turn your back on me
You told me all the lies and hypnotized and I believed
How could you cheat on me
Then turn your back on me
You told me all the lies and hypnotized and I believed

And now with all your pride
You still can't look me in the eyes
and now in all your shame
You can't even speak my name

[Chorus]
How could you cheat on me
Then turn your back on me
You told me all the lies and hypnotized and I believed
How could you cheat on me
Then turn your back on me
You told me all the lies and hypnotized and I believed

I'm addicted to every single thing you do
I'm dying inside....

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Thank You for the music. Love

February 23, 2012 - 12:07am — sharlenemorgan

Thank You for the music. Love it and it makes the workouts more about getting back to me.

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Somebody That I Used To Know

February 13, 2012 - 12:58pm — Gso88

This is my story in musical format... I'm sure it will sound very similar to a lot of you here as well

Artist: Gotye, featuring Kimbra
Song: Somebody That I Used to Know
Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8UVNT4wvIGY

[Gotye:]
Now and then I think of when we were together
Like when you said you felt so happy you could die
Told myself that you were right for me
But felt so lonely in your company
But that was love and it's an ache I still remember

You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness
Like resignation to the end, always the end
So when we found that we could not make sense
Well you said that we would still be friends
But I'll admit that I was glad it was over

But you didn't have to cut me off
Make out like it never happened and that we were nothing
And I don't even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger and that feels so rough
No you didn't have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records and then change your number
I guess that I don't need that though
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

Now you're just somebody that I used to know
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

[Kimbra:]
Now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over
But had me believing it was always something that I'd done
But I don't wanna live that way
Reading into every word you say
You said that you could let it go
And I wouldn't catch you hung up on somebody that you used to know

[Gotye:]
But you didn't have to cut me off
Make out like it never happened and that we were nothing
And I don't even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger and that feels so rough
And you didn't have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records and then change your number
I guess that I don't need that though
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

[x2]
Somebody
(I used to know)
Somebody
(Now you're just somebody that I used to know)

(I used to know)
(That I used to know)
(I used to know)
Somebody

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Alright, day 2 of this post

February 6, 2012 - 1:48pm — Gso88

Alright, day 2 of this post and today I bring you a song about just letting go because you finally realize its not worth it, these Narcs are selfish, take take take, never giving, all about them shells of human beings. I had a major realization today and it really goes in line with this song. No I'm not advocating ACTUALLY saying goodbye, NC and all that, but you can say goodbye, by yourself, behind closed doors and let it all go once and for all.

Artist: Simple Plan
Title: Time to Say Goodbye

I just don't want to waste another day
I'm trying to make things right
But you shove it in my face
And all those things you've done to me I can't erase
And I can't keep this inside
It's time to say goodbye

On the first day that I met you
I should have known to walk away
I should have told you you were crazy
And disappear without a trace
But instead I stood there waiting
Hoping you would come around
But you always found a way to let me down

[Chorus]
It's time to say goodbye
(I just don't want to waste another day)
It's time to say goodbye
(Cause things will never be the same)
It's time to say goodbye
(You make me think I need to walk away)
It's time to say goodbye
It's time to say goodbye

After all the things I've done for you
You never tried to do the same
It's like you always play the victim
And I'm the one you always blame
When you need someone to save you
When you think you're going to drown
(Think you're going to drown)
You just grab your arms around me and pull me down

[Chorus]
It's time to say goodbye
(I just don't want to waste another day)
It's time to say goodbye
(Cause things will never be the same)
It's time to say goodbye
(You make me think I need to walk away)
It's time to say goodbye
It's time to say goodbye

Now I'm gone
It's too late
You can't fix
Your mistakes
I was trying to save you from you
So you scream
So you cry
I can see
Through your lies
You're just trying to change me
(Trying to change me)

Somewhere in the distance
There's a place for me to go
I don't want you to hate me
But I think you need to know
You're weighing on my shoulders
And I'm sick of feeling down
So I guess it's time for me to say goodbye

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Keeping on that with the motivation - song 3

February 7, 2012 - 10:51am — Gso88

Today we have a more upbeat rhythm, to me the lyrics express a sadness yet that sadness is laced with a mixture of the beginnings of undersanding and acceptance. The singer expresses his sadness and struggles yet he is fighting to move on. The tone of the music, at least to me, is upbeat- kind of like a club song. I interpret that Coupled with the sad lyrics to maybe imply that "happy face" we put on to mask our inner pain from others, like it's all ok when it really isn't.

Good luck, keep fighting and stay strong!
-Gso

Artist: 3oh3
Track: R.I.P.

This town used to be a pretty place to stay
A place you'd stop off on the highway
But all of those things changed on a day
You packed up your bags
And you ran away

All they say is how you've changed
Everyday I stay the same
So you can keep the necklace that I gave to you
I'll keep the shitty tattoos

I can see it from the other side
The grass isn't always as green
The house is burnt to ashes
I'm no longer in-between
R.I.P.
R.I.P.
You and me

I can see it from the other side
The grass isn't always as green
The house is burnt to ashes
I'm no longer in-between
R.I.P.
R.I.P.
You and me

I count the empty bottles upon the bar
But I give up, I can't count that far
The lights in this place are too dim to see
They're kickin' me out
It's a quarter past three

They tell me you're all I've got
I just need these dreams to stop
You can keep the necklace that I gave to you
I'll keep the shitty tattoos

I can see it from the other side
The grass isn't always as green
The house is burnt to ashes
I'm no longer in-between
R.I.P.
R.I.P.
You and me

I can see it from the other side
The grass isn't always as green
The house is burnt to ashes
I'm no longer in-between
R.I.P.
R.I.P.
You and me

In the back of the car
On the way to your home
In the pouring rain
On the side of the road
In the light of the street
In the recline of the seat
You told me I should move on

In the back of the car
On the way to your home
In the pouring rain
On the side of the road
In the light of the street
In the recline of the seat
You told me I should move on

I can see it from the other side
The grass isn't always as green
The house is burnt to ashes
I'm no longer in-between
R.I.P.
R.I.P.
You and me

I can see it from the other side
The grass isn't always as green
The house is burnt to ashes
I'm no longer in-between
R.I.P.
R.I.P.
You and me

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I've fallen behind here, it's

February 10, 2012 - 1:56pm — Gso88

I've fallen behind here, it's been an interesting couple of days.

Here's a song (really loud and aggressive beats) for when you are feeling a little down or maybe if you are putting some blame on yourself. This song reminds me that it is not my fault in any way shape or form. And I'm putting this behind me and moving forward.

This is not a song for easy listening. There is a LOT of screaming and general craziness. I listen to this when I am going to the gym or using my punching bag. Unless you are prepared or extremely open minded about musical genres you may just want to take the message from the lyrics!

Artist: Killswitch Engage
Song: A Bid Farewell
Link (if it works...): http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&cd=7&ved=0CEcQtwIwBg&url=http%...

I will bid farewell, sever the ties
This is all I am, this is all that's left
Turn from deceit, the love of self is death
Deliverance is given to you

I will bid farewell,
Sever the ties

Now your heart beats black with deception, you have been forsaken
Leave behind (I will) all reminders of you

I will bid farewell
To all lies
I will bid farewell
Sever the ties

Searching, always searching
Hoping for a change
But I will never be satisfied
I will now bid farewell

I will bid farewell
To all lies
I will bid farewell
Sever the ties

Hunter's picture

Gso88

February 12, 2012 - 2:55pm — Hunter

Yikes.. I think I'm getting old.

:)

Hunter

Gso88's picture

Totally warned you! I wasn't

February 12, 2012 - 3:28pm — Gso88

Totally warned you! I wasn't even saying that is good music, just a good message in there haha

Gso88's picture

Im going to continue to post

February 11, 2012 - 9:00am — Gso88

Im going to continue to post here because Im finding it very therapeutic to keep digging through my iPod and find motivational songs.
I don't know what it is about music but when a song really hits home I just keep that sucker on repeat all day and find something new the next day

Today its a song about fighting on

Artist: Art of Dying
Song: Get Thru This
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GxeMpkw8FPw

I've seen better days yeah
So says the mirror
It's hard to find divinity when you're the king of men

If I can get through this
I can get through anything
If I can make it through this
I can get through anything

If I can get through this
I can get through anything
If I can make it through this
I promise you, I promise you

It could be much worse
But the call is close
Tomorrow's my reason for today to let go

If I can get through this
I can get through anything
If I can make it through this
I can get through anything

If I can get through this
I can get through anything
If I can make it through this
I promise you, I promise you

If I can get through this
I can get through that
If you cut me wide open
{ From: http://www.elyrics.net/read/a/art-of-dying-lyrics/get-through-this-lyric... }

I can cut you some slack
If you come when I'm leaving
I might never be back
I know it�s not easy
just a matter of fact

If I can get through this
I can get through that
If you cut me wide open
I can cut you some slack
If you come when I'm leaving
I might never be back
I know it's not easy
just a matter of fact

If I can get through this
I can get through anything
If I can make it through this
I can get through anything

If I can get through this
I can get through that
If you cut me wide open
(If I can get through this)
I can cut you some slack
If you come when I'm leaving
(If I can get through this)
I might never be back
I know it's not easy
(If I can get through this)
just a matter of fact

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It's been a while since you

February 22, 2012 - 1:01pm — TNR1

It's been a while since you have added any songs and although some might struggle to appreciate the bands you have chosen, I suspect there are lots of hurting individuals for who these songs really resonate.

Just saying...

goldie's picture

We often feel unheard after a major kick in the ass

February 5, 2012 - 9:46am — goldie

You were NOT heard with her this is for sure and as unfair as that was, we on here do GET THIS. She was using you for supply and it does feel great to be around someone when they are on top of their game. Like a politician or actor when they are getting the votes and the roles. Life is a party.
Life is also a choice, all MEN know this and I believe that women are beginning to learn this as well now that they are in more of an independent role in many cases.

As you begin to sort out your feelings of shock, betrayal, feeling used, duped, angry, sad, and all the rest of it, you begin to go much deeper into your own inner core and ask yourself the important questions.

What type of man or woman is going to work better for you.. Not talking about the shrot haul here, talking about the long haul. You said yourself in another post that YOU DID pick up all the signs YOU just chose to ignore them as many of us here did as well.

We can all chose the cake and icecream, the coke, the expensive car, ect..and we know there is a price to pay. We get fat, we get addicted to drugs, we have no money to pay our bills when we make foolish choices. We grow to learn that this ALSO applies to people.

When we chose the wrong people, and sleep with the devil, although it is a high for awhile what we get on the backend for most of us is just not worth it.

As for the forum, if you keep posting here, people will respond.

God bless,
Goldie

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I get the impression by your

February 5, 2012 - 8:20am — Sparrow

I get the impression by your song choice that you feel you "weren't enough". Please know that it isn't you, it is her. No one will ever satisfy her appetite for supply. It's just the way it is. That is why it is so important NOT to take it personal, because it is NOT a personal reflection on you, or any of us.

Accept that she is what she is, and eventually you will be able to move on. It's hard, whether you are a man or a woman. Victims of NPD are unisex.

Good luck with your continued efforts, you will get there!

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Sparrow...

February 5, 2012 - 8:36am — Gso88

Not so much that I feel that I personally wasn't enough, but that no matter what nothing would ever be enough for her (the need to fill that supply) and I wouldn't want to live that way. But I guess at the same time I still feel a personal sting too it, because when she did have that supply she was great to be around.

oceangirl's picture

You are good enough

February 7, 2012 - 11:43am — oceangirl

My old neighbor told me (we are both surfers) and he knew I could relate, so I hope you can use this advice he gave me:

Don't let the drowning swimmer take you down - save yourself

I like your song choices. One of the incomprehensible things your N did, and they all do, because it was done to me, too, was to convince everyone else that it was you, not them. It is an awful feeling to try to justify yourself to everyone, but you don't really have to in the end. Just be yourself and try not to worry about what everyone else thinks. Those that loved you anyway will always love you. The N finally gets theirs and people figure them out. Karma is on our side!

Oceangirl

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I know what you mean. They

February 5, 2012 - 8:45am — Sparrow

I know what you mean. They are great to be around while their supply needs are being met. But beyond that, they are dead inside. It's sad actually, but nothing we can do but detach ourselves from them.

Much will be learned in your journey and one day, you will meet a non-disordered, and she will benefit from what you have learned through all of this. And you will be at peace with it all as well.

Stay strong!