Feeling so stupid

Feeling so stupid
Posted February 5, 2012 - 7:52am
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I found out a couple days ago that he has been hanging out with a new girl..he even took her to our mutual friends house..was seen with her the week we broke up, which makes me think this didn't just start..he told my friends he had moved on weeks ago.. I made a big mistake and sent him texts saying that I knew about his new skank and he told my friends that I was unstable..I wish I hadnt given him the satisfaction..already feel so devalued and now I feel like I never meant anything to him and he thinks I'm a nut..it's killing me to know I've been replaced so quickly and I hate that he thinks so badly of me.. I know it sounds pathetic but it really hurts

‹ Narcs and their mother's Into my 7th day ›
fearlessfemale's picture

Go easy on yourself

February 5, 2012 - 10:14pm — fearlessfemale

I'm so sorry for your pain honey...I know it feels bad to seem as if you are being replaced.

Here is the bigger picture. He's SCUM

He is an ill person and the girl he is with now will be finding this out soon enough.

As for you hating that he thinks badly of you...his thoughts are worthless. What matters is you focus on
yourself and how YOU think of yourself. You are very strong and courageous and are making an excellent choice for yourself by being here and getting support and understanding so YOU CAN BE THE BEST YOU EVER!

Don't worry too much about the text to him...common mistake. Just learn from it. You texted him, you feel bad, you learned, it caused you pain because you broke NC, now you will not do it again. Move on to the next step.

Put all the focus on yourself and don't waste another second of your energy on him or his "skank".

Hang in there sweet girl...it will get easier and the pain will ease for you.

-fefe

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I agree, chin up!

February 5, 2012 - 9:20am — HelpMeHeal

What's done is done and you can't take it back. Just get back on the horse. These Ns change us. When we are with them, we find ourselves doing this we never dreamed of. Likewise, once they are gone, we do things out of character as well. It's not your fault and we are here to support you.

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narc72

February 5, 2012 - 7:57am — Used

CHIN UP ITS DONE NOW..
THE FEELINGS YOU ARE HAVING IS B/C YOU FEEL SO SAD AFTER DOING IT.....IGNORE ANY NEGATIVE FEELINGS AND MARCH ON WITH YOUR LIFE....
SHE WONT GET ANY BETTER THAN YOU DID?....YOU KNOW THAT...
HE THINKS EXACTLY THE SAME ABOUT YOU AS HE DID WHEN YOU WERE WITH HIM....
DONT GIVE HIM THE POWER BY SAYING THAT...
THEY HAVE NO FEELINGS ABOUT ANYTHING OR ANYONE...
DUST YOUR SELF DOWN AND START ALL OVER AGAIN..