My narc was a total jerk to me, and I compared notes with OW who experienced similar experiences. He was a compulsive liar and a cheat.

When I compared notes with her, I started researching cheaters and liars and stumbled here.. thank god <3

I outed him to his face and he knew that I had spoken to OW. I had even told her about some physical abuse he inflicted on me to see if she had experienced anything like it. I'm sure she must have told him that we spoke by now and what I said because she needed closure. I told him he needed serious help and he admitted he needed help and was going to treat his new girlfriend very than OW and I.

I was NC for about a month and feeling good. My dad got sick and in the hospital and I went on a totally 3 day depressed bender. He is chronically ill so every time he goes in the hospital it is very scary.

I know myself enough to know I was just depressed and doing something self destructive. I truly don't want him in my life. I texted him.

It confused me because when I texted him he was SO nice. I aksed him if he hated me and he told me that he didn't hate anyone but that he just thought it was good that we didn't interact. I told him about my fathers illness and he told me that he really hope he feels better and I told him I was feeling really sad about it and on a bender. I told him apparently I do crazy stuff when I'm on benders. He said "like text me?" haha" I told him yes. He told me to be safe and smart and that life has its ups and downs and I'm just on a down and it will get better. I stupidly asked if I could call him later and he told me that he was really sorry but he just didn't think that was a good idea. He said sorry twice.

I just don't know why he would even ANSWER ME. When I texted him in the first place I really thought he wouldn't. That was the self destructive part. It shocked me that he answered and even more shocked me that he was being so helpful and nice.. and civil I think is the word. Why be civil when I obviously sold him up the creek to his OW who turned out to be the main girlfriend. I assume he would hate me and at the very least ignore me forever because he would know what was at stake.

I know he can't want anything more from me.. I outed him. He knows I know everything..

What does he want??