He had me at "hello"

He had me at "hello"
Posted December 31, 2011 - 10:37am
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The second I laid eyes on him I wanted him all to myself-at any cost,apparently!This was about 15 years ago. He was much more charming than he is now. Now he's a pathetic old man that many people don't want to be around. He tries and rarely succeeds in reeling new fish in. They're out there, though. He will find them.
I'm trying to figure out exactly what was wrong with me for staying in this sick, sado-masochistic relationship as long as I did. I feel a little better knowing I may not be alone in this quest! I'm so grateful to have found this site. I feel like I may be strong enough(this time)to resist my ex-narc.

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crimson96's picture

Need suggestions please!!

December 31, 2011 - 1:28pm — crimson96

My x N texted me yesterday wanting to hook up and bust out next week. He currently has a new supply but apparently misses our sex life. I was stupid and called his cell phone later that evening, only to have his girlfriend answer the phone. I explained to her that he was texting me as to see me and her statement was 'i don't believe you'. I offered to forward the texts to her, but she didn't want to see them. I know he has her believing whatever lies he is saying about me. I would love to have her read the texts to validate who the real liar is. Any suggestions!!!!!

Hunter's picture

Used is correct.. He set you

December 31, 2011 - 1:41pm — Hunter

Used is correct.. He set you up..

Yes, this is not a suggestion.. This is what is necessary to move forward..

DELETE,DELETE,DELETE..

Hunter

braveangel_12's picture

You're so right! It's the

December 31, 2011 - 1:58pm — braveangel_12

You're so right! It's the hardest thing to do. I don't know how many times I blocked his number, Silenced his ringtone,(thank God he never learned how to text!) and sought revenge onto his new source. I always did an about face when it came to forgiving him. I even thought about it recently. NC is the only way!

Used's picture

afterthought

December 31, 2011 - 1:36pm — Used

HE ALSO SET YOU UP....YOU PHONE G/F ANSWERS PHONE...
NARCS DONT LET ANYONE SEE OR HAVE THEIR PHONES.... YOU ARE ONE OF MANY HE TEXTED AND THIS POOR COW IS GETTING THE FLACK....

braveangel_12's picture

You should send on the texts,

December 31, 2011 - 1:36pm — braveangel_12

You should send on the texts, if you think that will make you feel better. But, your narc will not like getting found out and he'll punish you. You know that! Chances are it won't make a difference to this girl. And he'll probably make you out to be some lunatic!

Used's picture

braveangel-12

December 31, 2011 - 1:45pm — Used

EVEN IF CRIMSON SENT THE TEXTS THEY WOULD HAVE CRIMSONS NUMBER ....NOT NARCS...

Hunter's picture

Brave angle No contact is the

December 31, 2011 - 1:43pm — Hunter

Brave angle No contact is the only should here..

Hunter

Used's picture

crimson96

December 31, 2011 - 1:32pm — Used

SHE DOES BELIEVE YOU....SHE JUST DOESNT WANT TO....
If this was me, I would keep the texts....BUT WHY ARE YOU NOT NC....
why are you so casual about narc texted me for hooking up for sex?.....

13Moons13's picture

Welcome, Braveangel, So sorry

December 31, 2011 - 11:34am — 13Moons13

Welcome, Braveangel,

So sorry you had to land here, but it is the most caring helpful place to land after our experiences. The wonderful people here will help you heal.

Xoxo

HardToBelieve's picture

You're not alone. We all

December 31, 2011 - 11:03am — HardToBelieve

You're not alone. We all wonder why we stayed for as long as we did. Whether it's 5 months, 5 years or 25 years. Actually the time doesn't make a difference. So we shouldn't dwell on the time. Even though it's hard at times. Some days I think ''If only I had left him the first time he said this and that.. or the first time he did this and that''... But better late than never. We came out of it alive that's what's most important.