twinkletoes story

Buyer beware.

My story is only 5 months of BS but i'll put it out there anyway.

I was totally smitten with a guy I knew for about a year..tall, broad-shouldered, handsome (every girl was after him), funny, and wow what a charmer...

Then, in July, during a particularly rough spot in my life, he waltzed in out of the blue, and declared the love and desire he had felt for me the past year.

As we got to know each other (he wanted me to be his gf the 2nd day), I couldnt believe how much we both had gone through..travelling similar paths; how much he listened, wanted to know, how much attention he showered me with and needless to say as the days, weeks passed, i thought God had delivered a gift from heaven to me.
Strangly, a lot of the bad "stuff" that was going on in my life, mended itself, changed for the best, so again it seemed proof that he was the one. We had talked about marriage (he introduced the subject), how much he wanted children & family,

FFWD a few months
I loaned him $1500 and the next day he stopped communicating with me. Some time after that we broke up. He seemed the most upset over having to change his facebook status back to single. We are both in our 30s.

How I came across NPD:
His behavior/actions left me in a fog. I googled the traits and the results came up with Narcisisstic Personality Disorder

*Had to have permission to kiss him most of the time

*Crazy rage then snapped back to normalcy like the flick of a switch

*Talked about desire for sex, porn, masturbation constantly but rarely put out, and when he did..5 minutes of awful!

*Yelled when I laughed at anything other than his jokes, or when i cried about something evoking emotion

*Obsessed with tv; watching for hours or the same movie over and over, all night, EVERY night

*Huge, amazing plans for us that changed weekly, sometimes daily..No matter how small or big, none of them came to be

*Wanted to use my money, others money..always out of money..always a desperate emergency for more

*Modest, funny, oh-so-charming public personality/Sneaky, abusive when it was just us.

*Lies, lying, stealing, hidden arrests and drug use, tons of deliquent debt. Had to have the best, most exp. of everything.

*Told me he loved me the first time we talked

*Wouldnt answer the phone despite telling me Im the love of his life

Found out 3 other women from where we met, had been duped with the same lines and crap from him.
The list is just a few observations. The bottom line, I knew something was off..too good to be true..and when the insults upgraded to threats of violence, it should be the biggest flag of all!
Listen to your gut! My heart goes out to all those dealing with these psychos.