I need your advice on this one. I broke up with my N almost a year ago. The break-up was really a shock for me although I have initiated it during a fight and after reaching my limits. I didn't want to break up with him, I told him and he humiliated me by saying that I had psycological problems and that he told every common friend what I did and everyone agreed with what he thought about me. Anyway, back then I didn't know anything about narcissists but during my relationship with him I suffered from low self esteem and felt guilty most of the time, because nothing I did was enough for him. I don't want to remember, you know best.
Soon after our break-up he would communicate with me every now and then to check how I was doing, without even offering an apology for all the cruel things he'd said to me. After six months I decided I had enough. I stopped every kind of contact with him. He would then check on me on facebook, writing comments etc. I didn't block him, I thought he would get the message. Then, two weeks ago he asked how I was doing. I didn't reply anything.
Then he wrote a five paragraph message accusing me of my insensitive behaviour. It went like this ‘I don’t understand why you ignore me (Ihave a lot more reasons not to talk to you and yet I do, expressing pure interest) and at the same time you text our common friend to see her, as she told me. I think you have serious issues although I do not want to argue with you about it and it is really not my business, but I can’t understand why you behave like a pig. There are people that you have ignored and wonder about your behavior. I thought I knew you and that you face your problems, as you once told me, but you, you are running away from them. You should get in touch with those you hurt, otherwise I don’t know what to think of you’, etc. etc.'
I broke the rule and I replied calling him almost inhuman. I was really cruel. He sent me another message telling me that I lost my temper and what I accused him of can't even touch him because he knows who he is. He also said that I have a selective memory because he didn't even want to break up with me. He told me how much he appreciated me and that he would leave me alone as I wished.
A day ago he texted me, informing me that a member of his family had died. I replied in a kind manner but I'm afraid he will communicate with me again. Would I be insensitive to ignore him if he tries that? I mean isn't this a difficult situation?