Cant join them beat them!

Cant join them beat them!
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Just wanted to share this with everyone.
When My narc husband left me, he blamed me for everthing that went wrong, he moved to the university halls where he is a lecturer and moved his things bit by bit then started looking down at where i live, saying things like 'dont you think this flat is very small?gosh he only lives in halls?hardly palacial!This bed is too hard...this quilt is too thin...he complained about everything the last week he came home. He stopped paying his part of the rent months earlier and for everthing else, left me and the dog in financial stress.
Well here is where it gets better....I sold the engagement ring and bought myself a nice little car and now have money in the bank!!when he was with me he made sure I was trapped with the dog...no car, no money...trapped...wey hey
I am so much better off with out him. I have the confidence now to do it on my own after years of being told im useless.(bear in mind I was a successful business woman when i met him)I am starting to venture out again on my own and i know i will make it.It is still painful though to think I lost all that for someone who never loved me....that swine.......This experience has tought me to love myself and for once I do. I have also now set bounderies for everyone in my life cos before I was a soft touch now i find the bounderies easy to set and i feel so much better for it. so some good has come out of being with such an ass. love you all xxxxxxxx

ordinarycourage's picture

Glad to hear

you got your power back!

Keep us updated on your progress. It is inspiring.

matahari's picture

Yes I must be getting my power back ordinaryorange

Yes You are right, I went out today and bought myself a hifi to play my music and it feels sooooo good as when i was with my narc i was not allowed to play any music, if i did he would switch it off and say it was crap...lol im realising how repressed i was. I also had to go to bed when he did or he would get mad cos he said i made too much noise...so i did go to bed when he did but just starred at the ceiling cos i was not tired enough any way now that he is not here i go to bed when i want and i feel so free and feel my old self is coming back. All my friends said when i was with him i was not myself i had become someone else( a really sad version of my old self) Yee peee it really feels good now and for all of you out there who are suffering at the moment it will get better take it from me i thought i could not live with out him geeeesssss was i mad or what?xxxxxxxxxgoing to jiggy wiggy to some music now.........The dog thinks im mad...bless himxx

Hunter's picture

I hope you kept the dog..

I hope you kept the dog.. They are a loyal true friend ,more than a Narc could ever be..

Hunter

matahari's picture

sure am hunter

sure am going to keep the dog....love him to bits been with me through thick and thin...xx