Oh there is a special place in Hell for him...and it's right here on Earth and thine is its name. I can do far worse to him than break his knee caps...I can bankrupt him...and for someone whose entire role has been to see how much he can screw me out of by wielding money as leverage, I am going for the jugular and taking all control away from him by having the money yanked out of his check before he sees a dime. Fuck with MY kid will ya?

Oh lookie! Hey fuckface, I'll just be needing $563 in addition to child support next month to band our son's teeth. Oh, and by the way? The full cost differential for me to carry our son on my health insurance is $112 per month for YOU...since YOU signed a waiver declining coverage for him on your company's insurance plan. Oh and braces every month are going to cost you $85 for 20 months. My cost will be $34.37 for his braces every month...since I have a $1,000 ortho benefit on my plan and I chose to cover him and I've been paying 100% of the premium. You're not tapping into that. Just be grateful you get to take advantage of the PPO discount that only exists because I have coverage for this child.

I also will be asking the court to make him responsible for all out of pocket health costs since I carry our son on my health insurance. And next year (2013)...I'm switching to an HSA...that has a $3,000 deductible...no more copayments...straight deductible and coinsurance. I can still contribute to the HSA pre-tax, the entire amount...but he's responsible for 100% of our son's deductible if I get the order entered that I want. And since I'll have family coverage, and it's a non-embedded deductible, the entire $3,000 must be met before anything is paid...LOL!!! The total out of pocket will triple compared to what it is today. LOOOOOOL! Yah, I can take him out financially, believe it.

And NONE of what I've written above addresses the $4,000 he still owes me from when he decided to ignore the standing child support order for 8 months. That I want paid in full within 5 months. Instead of the 30 months he was originally banking on. Right now, even with paying child support, he is one month behind.

So, I will march into court in January, with an immediate demand for $1,800 (ortho dwnpmt, current month child support and child support for the month he's behind) and going forward, a modified order to include all the other crap above.

At the same time, filing for an emergency order suspending visitation.

He had it soooo good. And now he's going to find out what the consequences are for narc behavior being directed at my child.

I make good money. Problem is, the state and worse yet, county where jurisdiction is set. Cook County, IL. You pretty much have to prove the asshole is a serial killer to get visitation permanently yanked and he will not voluntarily give it up, since that would make him appear to be an asshole (I already know he is). I already have sole custody...and I am going to hammer him financially as well. My son is already showing signs that he dislikes his father...the "I don't exist" statement was made when he and his therapist were talking about friends and socialization...my son is on the autism spectrum...he certainly didn't need the attack from one of his own parents in light of his present state of vulnerability.

I am pursuing the suspension of visitation based on this recent incident...basically, I want daddy dearest to look as crazy as he really is to the court...and by the way? Fuck you, pay me TOO.