LightAtTheEndOfTheTunnel's Story
LightAtTheEndOfTheTunnel's Story
Hi Ladies! My Story - Need Advice?
Hi Ladies,
Ive been a lurker since February.
The story in a very quick nutshell is, i was D&D'ed very cruelly after 2years with a Narc on June 28th... on July 16th (ha!) he was at a mutual friends wedding with a OW as my replacement and has been with her since.
Ive been no contact since then, however had a contact slip this week when he emailed me.
He first emailed me on August 12th alledgedly to check i was safe due to the London riots?! (Sure.. you left me for dead quite literally in June and now you wanna check im ok?!) - i stayed no contact :-) and later found out he emailed whilst holidaying on his own (low supply - jeez these creatures are so predictable).
Ok last Friday i recieve an email from him, my hotmail unbeknown to me had been spamming my contact list.
I replied calling him out on OW and what he id to me - true to Narc form no accountablity yada yada.
But here comes the rub, he tells me twice ( the first time i ignored it) that he doesnt want his relationship with OW anymore, "grown tired of it" (still these creep's make me shudder|) it not what he wants etc etc.
Pulls out loads of BS such as "If i thought you could change Light id be chasing you back in a heartbeat" " You were the reason i ran away" "You were horrible to me" "Even though i dont want OW shes been fine, she hasnt nagged me, she hasnt done x y and z"
This has not fazed me ladies i still think this guy is a prick. I also believe the reason he has emailed me is because hes got tired of OW, supply is low yada yada.
He started talking inappropiately about our past sex life, reminiscing so to speak *wretches* Telling me things arent the same without me, how he will think of me in his old age (hes 31?!). All the crap we basically know Narcs arent capable of feeling basically.
My question is though ladies.. He asked me "How do i break up with someone when everything is absolutely fine?"
1) Everything isnt fine, hes disordered
2) My heart bleeds for this poor girl in ways, i saw this coming, getting into his car and noticing the passenger seat had been adjusted for a smaller woman (im 5ft 9 1/2 eek! lol), the way he went cold on me and ran straight to her.
3) Wow the idealisation period truly just last 3-6 months.. this is month 5 for them and already hes "bored". Truly speechless, alas it happened to me, and the one before me etc etc
Sorry back to my question lol
** He likes to throw at me that he left because of me being "bad" *rolls eyes* so i dont believe him when he says "everything is great with OW and shes better than you Light" as he knows he has to say that to try make me feel like shit.. it may have worked back then.. but now? Hell no!
Ive read far too much, experienced his wrath and educated myself, been through therapy to fall for his sh*t ever again.
Ladies as a silent lurker you guys have kept me strong in my recovery also.. back to NC! xx
Welcome to the forum Light, I
Journey on...
Mine does the same thing.
LOL!
Exactly
Light im still waiting to
OMG Used!!!!
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Light
Thank You Ladies
Light, that's hilarious!!
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LATEOTT
Light, your bulb is bright!
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