For me, or my N, he compartmentalized so much, and he is extrememly angry, so I think he would most likely view it as anger and how he didn't have control over what went wrong. I would see him be hurt/angry from what his own father and brothers and life did to him, or what his former coworkers did to him (it was never his fault mind you) so it just becomes another annoyance. It is hard to fathom, however. Mindboggling. It happened to my friend, too, and I watched her ex-husband dumb her and her two awesome, amazing kids. Mindboggling.

I think that what they do is habit.

They get to that fork in the road moment and out of fear and habit run for the hills.

I choose to believe that in some cases they do regret it afterward, for a time.

I also think that rather than feel regret that might be painful they keep telling themselves a lie about what happened to the point that they honestly believe it.

They rewrite history, and move on with a clean slate.

The man I was with certainly did not forget some of his past victims, unfortunately it was with total contempt.

So I believe YES you do cross her mind, just not in the way you would hope to be remembered. Sorry, but they have major issues!

How are you. After an ordinary break-up, even if painful, I am sure the two parties do sometimes look back on times together, and it would be odd if they didn't. They may look back with melancholy or even with some affection, after a time.

Since the NPD appear to have a deficient grasp of time and space, among other things, I am certain they do not look back in any normal sense of that word. But one of the salient aspects of NPD is that they objectify the "other", and by that I mean they see the other as one would see a fridge or chair. Useful, but not something you stop to think about a lot, and just there on the periphery of your vision.

It is awfully hard to take that on board, because we can't believe we were well-nigh invisible. The sad truth is that we were.

All the best
Hermes

I am one of the minority ,who do think they still think of it, you wouldnt be human otherwise, and there are regrets, but sometimes things have gone so far there is no going back....thats when they put it all out of their mind....but its always there, I know this...
3mnths out, the wound is still painful...