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Narcs are everywhere! I have new one at work, who is powerful within the company, targeting me head on. Even other employees are talking about his direct line to me. I am so thankful for being a part of this forum. His red flags have smacked me in the face. Even though I know who and what he is, I can see the draw for a non-informed person. The charisma, good looks, money, attention and on and on and on.
Its actually making me stand back and watch him and his disorder. I have brushed him off, but I think this makes it worse.
The narc I was married to was covert, this one is in your face. I am going to give him a minute to go away, but then I an going to pull a Hunter(thats a compliment:)) on him. I am a little nervous, he has caused triggers for me. Just something I needed to tell someone. I do need your support here. It is so triggering, uhggg. I am PMSing too, uhggg! I hope he just goes away, but they are never that easy. I guess this is my test, to see if I have grown enough.
Establish boundaries NOW!! If
October 10, 2011 - 10:19am — HunterEstablish boundaries NOW!!
If he knows from the start you won't bite he'll run like a little kid!! They stop when you don't let it start!!
I work in a man industry.. Play the Narc game, you know what to do!!! DELETE!
Hunter
Ah! you just described my
October 10, 2011 - 7:15am — SeaAh! you just described my ExN! He used to be my boss and I first met him in an interview room! Eeeeewwwww
Great plan, Redhead! Pulling
October 9, 2011 - 11:20pm — 58 and going strongGreat plan, Redhead! Pulling a Hunter - SUPER.
Deep breath - and then pull!! You will be very calm and clear and composed. Great exercise as there are no feelings of love involved.
Funny how one can actually spot them and observe them, isn't it! Knowledge IS power in such a situation.
Keep using yours, and you'll be fine.
Good luck!!
And keep us posted.
Thanks for the comments and
October 10, 2011 - 9:18pm — Redhead1Thanks for the comments and support. I actually got pissed today with the general population of men. I don't have to worry about the new narc until Wednesday. He is in his town with his WIFE (oh, but they are divorcing, lol) This other little covert narc who is married trying to convince me to be his OW. I usually just laugh it off and walk away. Today I told him I am a main dish, not a side dish and I don't deal with other side dishes. They make me so sick, the way they try to devalue a person and never think about anyone but themselves. Like I want left overs from his wife. I am earning my Hunter stripes. My self respect is finally priority over being nice. Thanks for everything!
Redhead
October 10, 2011 - 11:19pm — HunterThis is awesome, your eyes are wide open...
Go for the filet... You go girl ! you are the number one entree ,,, don't ever forget it!
Hunter