I've been reading this forum since my therapist first told me my boyfriend was a narcissist 2 years ago, but this is my first post. So first order of business is a big THANK YOU to Lisa Scott for setting this up and to all of you who have generously shared your experiences. I've learned so much from you all.
I felt that I was well on my way to recovery at the beginning of the summer, but after July 4th I began to exhibit the same kinds of symptoms I displayed while I was in a romantic relationship with an N. I couldn't figure out what was wrong, and was almost ready to go back into therapy when I realized what was going on.
My post-N circle of friends has been a pillar of my recovery as I began to experience (for the first time in my life) what it was like to have friendships with normal (not disordered) people. So I think I went into denial when one of my closest new friends began to exhibit narcissistic traits. Instead of facing facts I regressed into my childhood survival mode.
Now I feel as though I am at square 1 again. How do I limit contact with her when she is part of the circle of friends I have come to rely upon for healing social interaction? I don't want to lose the rest of my new friends, so I am treading cautiously and trying to limit contact instead of going full NC.
Advice from anyone who has gone through this would be appreciated. Supportive noise from anyone else would also be appreciated.