I am 61. This last Narc marriage/relationship was 21 years together, 8 married. Until the last 5 years it was truly wonderful. He gave me just enough to keep me going. In June I filed for divorce. The other day I got such a vicious, threatening email that I filed an Order of Protection. While the wheels of "justice" ground slowly, I stayed in motels, not even living out of a suitcase - literally a bag lady.
I won't go into all the details about the service of the order, but it was ugly. The police were at my house until 1 AM and I yet had to go to a motel on their advice. I had the locks on the house changed to the tune of $400.
So two days after the fact, he sends a friend to pick up a UPS package that was delivered today. He sends a message with this friend (violation of order) that he is "calm" and if I want to call him ...
I declined. In three weeks I will be moving out of state and the next two years there will be that order of protection/ NC for 2 years.
I cry - I am losing the illusion, I am losing my house. But I know that the Path Forward is better.
I visit this site when my resolve weakens, the good times threaten to over ride reality..
It's hard - so, so very hard. But I have to save ME