If he got sick, how many women woud come to the hopsital?

You mention him in the hospital, but come to think about it, my exN said once, if he was to die he wonders how many women would be crying at his funeral. Why would he say that? He made it seem as if every woman wanted him, seriously!

Don't cry! it is confirmation for you....confirmation of how sick and convincing he is. Yes, it is sad, but at least you are AWARE. That is half the battle! You may go to his hospital bed....and see the "others" but you would EXPECT it. Imagine the other gals.....thinking "I am the ONLY one". Those are the ones to pity. They haven't "gotten it" yet. You are so much farther ahead. Still sucks, I know, but better than where the other women are at! xoxo

I'd go, to spit in his face and watch him suffer. I can honestly say I'd be relieved if he ended up severely sick in the hospital. Sorry, just being honest.

With the ex-Psych prof, it was his openly gay colleague who warned me about him... and he had his circle of male disciples. I don't think women would show up for the most part. The ex-P identified with Prince Andrei Bolkonsky in "War and Peace", who orders his sister Maria, his former fiancee Natasha, and his son Nikolenka to leave the room if they're weeping... when he's on his deathbed. He rages at them angrily when they're weeping. THe ex-P would say he'd act the same way if he were dying. He fantasized about dying alone.. then having people apologizing en masse at his grave at his funeral. He liked it that Leo Tolstoy emotionally abused his wife Sofia for the 48 years of their marriage... and that Sofia apologized daily at his grave. Heck, if the ex-P were in the hospital, I'd probably send postcards of my travels, lots of useless stuff he probably wouldn't like, ask him if he were masturbating to GLEE re-runs, and blab endlessly about ME and MY HAPPINESS. I'd tell him his illness was no big deal; besides, girls just wanna have fun. As for the funeral... well, I'd RSVP and then be a no-show. I wouldn't go in the first place. If he had a memorial (several of my former professors have passed away in the past decade), I wouldn't go.

only if they let me unplug the life support machine ha ha ha

I would not go.

I would not go.

No, I wouldn't visit him. It would merely be yet another excuse for him to suck me for supply. I have some serious health problems. One time xnh was throwing one of his immature rages because I was sick (again) and couldn't go camping over the weekend. I asked him, "So if I were in the hospital dying, would you be there with me or would you be doing whatever you think is fun anyway?" Xnh told me that he would just continue doing whatever fun activities he wanted anyway. His comment was, "Your being in the hospital dying shouldn't mean that I have to be 'dying' as well. I would think about you, but you DO know that you're not my ONLY priority in life, don't you?" Self-centered as*hole. God forbid that my being sick or dying would interfere with xnh having fun. I was just SO flattered that the jerk would even think about me. Not. For xnh and I, it's completely over. I loved him. He had his chance with me. Xnh managed to completely destroy every ounce of love that I had for him. Now we're divorced, and I hate him. I will remain firmly NC, and I'm moving onto a happier future without him in it. If he is in the hospital, he can just sit there and rot (alone). I won't be there.

no i wouldnt visit him, 2 years ago he had a breakdown[a real one] and i still wouldnt and he was in a realy bad way, funny realy b/c even when we were freinds i said to him if ever you are in hospital i wont visit you , he said where did that come from and i said i dont know, and to this day[4years later], i still dont know where that came from.

does not have to be in a hospital to qualify him as being sick, he is already sick, oh you mean physically sick? NO!!!! I would NOT visit him, he is dead to me so he is beyond what any hospital could do for him, ha ha

OMG! We're all involved with the same man. Goodness how he gets around. (lol)

My hN came to me last friday, told me how sick and how much pain he was in, he had me take him to er, take his bullshit, as he is a bear when he doesnt feel good, sit there for 9 hours, rub his back take him home nurse him all night, went to his moms in the morning for a few hours, which is two hours away, called me and said im coming back, i need you to take me back to er i sat there for hours again, he told me there is no one else he would want to be with him at hospital. then he passed his kidney stone and got up and went back to ow. he said hes been lying to her all weekend he had to go, but before he did he wanted to have sex with me, how sick...........but obviously, he meant it when he said he would always have me take care of him, oh lucky me, im just being used..........

I have a little different take.. I have always wondered who would show up at his funeral. You see he has alot of people he "knows" and he calls them "friends" but they arent really friends like I call friends. They are people that work for him or share a common interest but not close friends and the "friends" always seem to change alot. He had one really close friend and of course he was a guy that was sub standard to him in looks and a guy that he could control and he calls him his "best" friend. Why of course that would be his "best" friend

at his funeral though.....

Mine had a mysterious condition that he had to travel to a special hospital in London for.... I never really knew what it was, except it was linked to the threat of surgery and not being able to have sex for at least 6 months LOL... I used to take time off work and travel to appointments with him and then we'd do something together.... in the end he did not have the surgery... When I found out what he was etc... I worried that I had actually been attedning some kind of STD clinic with him without realizing.... but his ex-wife told me that no, he does have something odd.... in any case, no I would not go again.... Have spent too much time in hospitals on his account already. Some for him and some for me....taking HIV tests and all sorts....

Not me. If his family called to say he was in the hospital, I would tell them I was sorry they were going through this. If then they said he wanted to see me, I don't think I would go. Nah. He has a wife. If it then was we are pulling the plug tomorrow. can you come? he wants to make amends." Then I would go to give this man peace before he passes...I think I would. If this was to happen 10 yrs from now, I'm sure I would feel different than how I do today. I may not go and just let him be by himself and face himself which he has been avoiding all of his life.

Funny you mention this. This was one of the things he used to ask me about, several times actually. I live clear across the country and I'm married, so he used to ask me, "What if some terrible accident happened to me and I wound up in the hospital?" He was always fishing for validation that I would care enough about him to come to him. I always told him I would find a way to be there, regardless of the miles and my husband. And I meant it. (I was such great supply.) I never thought about other women showing up too (except his soon-to-be ex-wife) until you mentioned it right now. But now, it wouldn't even matter because he could be on death's door and I wouldn't go. What I said before, was BEFORE. Before I knew it was all a farse and he never loved me. Before I knew he played me from the very beginning, corrupted my values, put the final nail in the coffin of my marriage, stole my heart, chewed it up, put it through a grinder, and spit it out. He's dead to me already, so why would I go see him now? I hope he rots in Hell.