Being Alone w/ Yourself
Being Alone w/ Yourself
At the start of his dissapearance and NC to be by myself was so difficult. The silence in the room was too much for me. I wanted distractions yet couldn' find motivation to move myself off the sofa some days. My mind was intensely focused on him, on what happened, on those last conversations, on his behavior, and I was just getting a glimpse of the tip of the iceburg.
I was obsessive. I could not sleep. I would take sleeping pills, I would have a few glasses of wine I wanted to 'knock' my self out. I really didn't want to be 'here' anymore it was tooo painful.
Just being with my self was hard. Walking my dog I couldn't hear the birds chirp or see the sun shine anymore.
Being alone with suddenly so..alone.
Why would he NOT speak to me?
Why would he do this?
Oh, how we torture ourselves during this phases. It is called a fog for a reason.
So, can you be alone right now? What does it feel like?
Going NC in a way puts us right smack back in touch with ourselves and that doesn't feel very good. So much of our focus is on them, not ourself, suddenly our feelings becoming overwhelming and force us to pay attention.
Any thoughts?
loved ur post
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Excellent post. I said in
momoya, I agree...
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