MICHELE115 - from ifinallygotit - my friends

Before I begin, I just wanted to advise you that now that the forum's are separated, you don't have to post with my name in caps...that was only because the first night there were some logistical snafu's and I have some problems with my vision and I wanted to be able to weed out the "newbies" from the other members...hope you don't feel singled out as a newbie. Maybe we'll take a poll and see what we want to call the 1-3 steppers...BUT on to your post Ifinallygotit... You said: My friends say maybe he just met someone he really fell in love with fast and is going to marry her (because he posted pics of them on his FB after being with me 10 years and no pics). They say alot of these bachelor guys go with a woman a long time, don't marry and then suddenly meet someone that they change for. I do not believe this is the case with my N - I know him too well. I believe he thinks she is good for rebuilding his image and that he uses her for sex. I think you are right here...and most have no idea how these narcs operate. He really does not like hanging out with women, he prefers the company of men. Hmmmmm.... He does not give women much clout and surely he gave me more than he will her (he respected my work, abilities etc). But the key, even with you...you say he does not give women much clout...would it be fair for me to say that you got more than the others but you feel it was still crumbs? Not sure if this is how you feel. I do know of this pattern where men spend forever with a woman and then just bolt and marry someone else in a few months but I really do not feel he left me for another woman. i don't even think he planned to break up with me after the move - I think he got full of himself and just did whatever was in the moment - not me... Impulsive...is that what you're gettin at...so you think this was more an impusle decision? i think a long distance relationship was too much responsibility...I just don't feel that he left me for someone - he was so desperate to regain his status and fame! Maybe in his world. a cheapo hooter looking lady is a great thing with his friends... It's also a good front for "image" He's Mr. Testosterone... She may be a very nice lady too - but I just looked at her FB profile pic and she looks even worse - her profile pic is in a strapless cocktail dress with boobs pushed up - dirty skanky bleached teased hair with black stripe down middle - big nose - lots of make up, maybe bad teeth For a minute it sounded like the broad my ex is with...but then you said: - but tight nice body... What a relief! I thought we were sharing the same man... Who posts a profile pic like this on FB? A jackass!...oops, I mean a Narc... and if she is going with him, why still advertising the goods??? Because it sounds like her job is to be a good trophy. I know its not my business but I am not ready to think he is in love with someone...lust yes...gross Hun, he's not in love with anyone, never has been and never will be. Narcissism doesn't just grow overnight, it starts out very very early in life and blossoms from there. I'm sorry to be so blunt with the truth...it sounds like there is still a lot of CD going on. I'm very sorry - but just looking at his actions, these are not actions of a "feeling" man on any level. It is so clear this is all about image. They humor us until they decide it's not "fun" anymore...but Ifinallygotit - even though it hurts, would you really be deepdown happy living a lie? ((Ifinallygotit)) Hugs!