Disjointed Messages from a Narc....

'You are too needy', if anything I am probably too independent, the funniest one is' my advertising on Craigslist for free sex, first come, first served,', i told that to a guy once and he could not stop laughing, talk about insanity?!!!!that is when he refused to look at himself and his responsibilty in the demise of our relationship, but what the heck, it was ALL MY fault, Right..........

Thanks for taking the time to bump this up and sharing Scoop! Hugs! ____________ I am not posting this to air my dirty linnen in public but rather i feel this is a perfect exsample of the twisting of events of the narcissist. I wrote this email to my ns after a horrible brow beating agument the night before . The reason for the argument is still unclear . Dear **** The problem with us is the way you speak to me . I woke up with the words "i can go on all night like this and make you feel like shit , is that what you want " ringing in my ears .Believe it or not this is very abusive language .There have been several times when you have said to me "if you keep going on about things i will dump you " This again is emotional abuse . Iam not in a relationship to be spoken to like this . Weather born out of frustration or anger is your issue and its not for me . I feel very hurt and misunderstood . I feel if i dont point out theses things out you will think its ok to do again . Its not ok . I , like all people deserve to be spoken to with love and respect what ever out diffrences .Thats all i have to say . right .. are you sitting down girls (and boys ). here is his replie . Dear peru Personaly i think our frustrations are born out of something much deeper. You think you want me but can not accept me in all i do . I have allowed myself to be drawn away from other things to focus on you as i know you are insecure and i like to be there for you . All i ask is for this acceptance but instead of acknowledging that you seem to want me to fight your every battles and this is where we have escalated into this stalmate of anger and misunderstanding . You know deep down i am not abusive , so this is the thing that has manifested it . I know deep down you should not feel insecure , you are a beautiful person with a shining edge but have been warm down by past relationships and possibly that of your family and life in genereality . This has shaped you this way. No one said life is easy . All we can do is be there for each other. No one can do anything about the past and it is only by taking active steps to develop your own security that will help you to overcome that and i am trying to help you develop this Please for the sake of us both let me be me as i do you . These are the signs of an unhealthy relationship and will only lead to a false viewpoint of future relationships if we decide we are not right for each other (which is where i think we both are at at the moment ) What do you think PS I hope your interview went well today . Any comments ? Peru x http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2009/07/10/email-me-email-him#new

"You are emotionally unstable. You are too needy. I need someone more independent" Pure projection. I am a single mother who single handedly started and runs her own clothing boutique. Needy and not independent! HA! My ass. "You always have to win. You play so many games. You desperatley seek approval from other men." P R O J E C T I O N! "Why do you always have to fight with me? Always drama with you! Why can't you just let things be?!?" HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!! Because I am on to you, YOU F*CKING PIG!!!!!!!!! And BTW....He was the drama queen. There was ALWAYS chaos surrounding him since I first met him 4 years ago! " I want you obsessed with me. I read somewhere that if a man leaves his sperm inside the woman, she becomes addicted to him!" Nice...! LOL "You are just like my ex-wife!!!" He'd say that to try and spook me. He always talked of how CRAZY and PSYCHO she was! Now I know exactly what was going on!!! His ex-wife no longer puts up with his bullshit and told me in order for her and their children to get along with him civilly, they all have to treat him like he is *special* - like he is mentally retarded. (please don't take offense to that. After all, he is emotionally retarded.)

I was completely oblivious to them while it happened, though. We, like you two, would get caught up in text or email wars. - "You sound manic right now. Did you take your medication?" whenever I would call him out on his ugly behavior(my mother is BP, I take medication for anxiety but he has latched onto this idea that I'm unmanageably crazy) - "It's not that I don't have any emotions, I'm just more level-headed and rational than most people."