"Layers of Deceit" - Lies, Lies and more Lies

I asked about a situation that happened at work and he made up this huge very detailed story which I was so stunned I didn't interupt until the end and said "That isn't what happened at all. I was there and it happened this way (told story)". Which he then realized and remembered I was there. He said "oh my god is this what happens to your brain when you smoke too much pot in the past?!" I guess that's all he could pull out when really caught head on in a story with tons of made up details that he couldn't explain away. I wonder how many times he used that one.

OMG! That is a riot, What a weird ass! All the more reason to be glad he is someone else's problem.

Yes, they sure can. My X lied like that all the time. The mother was in a car accident, the grandmother has just about died on several occasions. His boss is a tirant and makes him stay at work until late, even though everyone else in that profession leaves work on time. He falls, cuts himself, hurts himself, everyone he knows has been in major car accidents. He loses his phone, it is shut off, the battery is dead. He has car trouble consistantly, yet is an auto mechanic. He has 4 different facebook accounts which he knows nothing about. There are only two people in the entire country with his name and the other guy is normal, so they are not his. All his X girlfriends abused him. They really are the devil when it comes to the lying thing, no consciense whatsoever. The lies just seem to flow with no consideration as to whether they can be detected or not, it seems to be all about getting what they want at the time with no regard towards the future. PATHETIC FREAKS is what they are. What a creep!!! God bless, Goldie

on his LIES, nobody ever read it though, ha ha ha LIES LIES LIES I think it was under. They lie like they breathe air, I have to share just one lie of his, please let me, everything he uttered was a TOTAL LIE but this one is funny, so have a good laugh ladies. I called him at 1am because that night I didnt hear from him and he usually called me after work like clockword, so I called and called and he FINALLY answered, I said, hey whats up I have been calling since 10:00 and he said oh I am sleeping I just got done vaccuming so I didnt hear the phone ring, mmmmm you were vacuming your home at 1 in the morning gee and I guess you forgot to check your messages on your cell phone too while you were at it. I mean WTF, he was screwing another woman and he could not be interrupted is more like it. I always knew when he was on vacation too because I could not hear the disbatch radio in his squad car when he called me while on duty, so for about a week I didnt hear any activity in his squad car total silence in the background, one time I said, so how are you enjoying your vacation and the dumb ass said, HOW dare you call and check to see if I am at work, ha ha what a dumb ass I never called to see if he was on duty he just gave himself away, I JUST KNEW from his calls and how short they were and the times he called. You see ladies no matter how good of a liar they are, even the BEST of the liars cant always fool you, so I just pretended I believed him and made him look like an ass and he didnt even know it. I really felt kind of sorry for him when his lies didnt fool me any longer, I thought you just keep on trying though god love ya in your deformed state of being. I see now he was really no match for me, oh naturally in the beginning because I was so taken with his act I believed what he said but once that mask was gone HE WAS HAD, I WAS ON TO EVERY SINGLE LIE he ever told me, I would ask him the same question a month later and I would get a different answer, ha ha ha and I have a memory like you would not believe, I remember what he even wore the first night we were together 4 years ago, HONEST. I am not lying, ha ha ha Dont bother asking them any questions because the answer will be a lie, even if you ask them what they had for dinner that will ALSO be a lie, they lie because they find it amusing. I think the only honest answer I got from the SOB was when I asked him what color are your eyes again, and he said brown, and thats only because he is full of shit. ha ha

It's sick isn't it!!! Not only do the lie, but they're so arrogant that they tell stupid horrible lies and could care less if they get caught. They just have another lie to top that lie if they do! Then it's your fault and your insecurity that made them lie!

Mine lied much more by omission - quiet secretive type probably leading a double or triple life. His communication skills were nil and when challenged on the few things I did catch wind of, he would go mute and be furious. I WAS a confident busy professional woman (my confidence went to toilet this past Fall and is creeping back up) and secure enough where I did not snoop on him while we were together. We did not live together so he could have been doing anything - The lies he told you about the death are very crazy...maybe covering for a lapse of time that he could not explain? or was he ever detached from reality? that is mind blowing...and sociopathic. My ex N really lied more like a little boy who cannot handle emotional situations or any responsibility... Because I was so stupid and gullible and trusting, I have no idea how much lying went on. I think because he isolated us so much I will never know which would be a blessing

Sofia Tolstoy learned that her husband, Leo, had betrayed her (in terms of his last will&testament) when she found his super-secret diary that he kept in his boot. There were two other diaries-one that was for her, one for the general public. It was his MOST secret diary when she found out, when he was dying, that he had betrayed her&their children. 3 years after the death of monologuist/playwright Spalding Gray, his widow&their two sons learned he had starred in porn films. The widow knew nothing about them... until recently.

Wow! I can relate with my firs narc relationship....the one I ended up marrying lol SO many lies....but the worst was when he told me that his mother died ( he is from another country and his mom is still there ). He said his cousins called and told him mom passed away....he cried to his boss that he couldn't afford to go see his cousins.....the boss paid for him to go home. And then two years later, i caught him in a lye. I asked who he was talking to on the phone and he said his mother lol I said I thought she died....and he said "uh well i did too but my cousins lied to me to get me to come home". Which even IF that was true....he shoulda told me instead of playing on my sympathy and the sympathy of my family for years! Biggest liar I was ever with. I divorced him 6 months after this.

I've told friends that N's lies & crazy making behaviors make me so disoriented that I literally feel physically dizzy & completely out of sync at times. Thanks so much for bringing that up. I've been wondering too. My N's lies were equally insane. Emotional vertigo! Exactly it.

I thought my Narc was a liar but yours seems to win the prize!! That is HORRIBLE! Crazy and horrible. He lied about something that was bound to come back around and bite him in the butt! OMG! That is crazy! My Narc always lied about things that made him look like a hero. Their lives are so pathetic and they are so horrible that they have to make up crap to make themselves look good!

OF COURSE LOML I call it emotional vertigo. I am realizing more and more everyday what a gift he gave me in that he doesnt speak. Cant add anymore icing to the cake that way. Do you still talk to him off and on? I mean for like work stuff? Oh and btw Im sure he had to rush back from Michigan from a board meeitng BAHAHAHHAHAHAHA! Call me if you want to chat sista. Have to tell you about when I snooped...