I am 28 and was with him for 11 years (marriage lasted 6 weeks!!! he started cheating 2 months before we wed)
My N had a few juvenile relationships before me so i can't relate to everything thats posted regarding narcisstic traits, which i sometimes find difficult and it makes me worry i may have 'diagnosed' him incorrectly seen as i think i've been the first to experience his wrath! I haven't really anyone i could contact from his past to see if the pattern is repeated as we got together when we were so young.
I find that he treats most people in such a N way tho, including his family who he picks up and drops when and if he needs them. For example, if he is not seen in a favourable light with someone or has an argument, they just don't exist in his life until he decides he may need them again!
I'm wondering if he will get worse with age as so many of my experiences with him seem to be echoed when i read through all the posts and blogs. The first thing i said when i heard he had run off with the OW was 'you watch he will propose ASAP - he's moved straight in with her, told her she's the one and had 2 tattoos to represent their relationship ( he left me 2 months ago)
I do notice that the last 3 years seem to have been chaotic with regards to his personality, behaviour and wants and needs. It's almost as if when he hit 25 it reeeally kicked in. If i look back to when we were younger i'd say he lost interest after the 1st year but he just didn't have such dramatic circles of behaviour then
- i wish i'd read all this a long long time ago!!