Unfortunately- he will lie about it. My XN lied about it, denied the cheating and proceeded to gaslight and project making me feel crazy. The ONLY way to get at him is to ignore, act indifferent as if he means NOTHING to you. They don't care what they did, who they hurt as long as it pleases him! Believe me- they are not worth any of our energy, time or feelings. I've been there, done that and very happy he's out of my life. Be glad he's out of yours!

The ex was confessing about fooling around with another woman, and he added something about being glad I never saw her because she was so beautiful it would have been very painful for me. We were in the car, and I looked over and he had this awful, awful smile on his face. He was really getting off on inflicting pain and making me feel more devastated than I already did. I can just imagine the pumped up feeling that gave him.

Ick...it really hurts to remember that. I feel so sad for the young woman I was then, who didn't know any better than to shove him out the moving car and never look back!

And that's how it is with narcissists...if you say anything you boost his ego one way or another, and possibly give him an opportunity to say something really hurtful.

Sounds like you're doing well--keep venting here instead of to him. We get it better than he ever will!

Hang in there xoxo

what is divinely yours will come back to you in time...so sorry you are hurting but "indifference" is the biggest N injury..now you are seeing the big picture..try to focus on You and not him..don't care what he does, because he didn't think to care about you..we are all guilty here of "overcaring" STOP..easier said then done, but rewarding with each hour/day/week/month/year...baby steps..you are on doing amazing considering you have to see him...you are showing your strength, he didn't know you had...believe in yourself, he does not validate your happiness you do...smile today and get outside and discover the wonder of nature~ 13 weeks for me today..91 days...sucks at times, but empowering now...peace and light~

All he will do is Deny, Deny, Deny, and Make Counter-Accusations. Or worse!!! You have to force yourself to just sit through the pain. We are all here for you. Vent to us, write in your journal but don't let him know that he is hurting you. Please don't give him the satisfaction. Believe in what we are saying because all of us have walked in your shoes one way or another. BIG HUGS!! xxA

I bet he wants you to know. If you call him on it, you will just be giving him supply. Positive, Negative its all supply to them. Watching your pain = Great Supply. They think to themselves "look how much pain she's in I must be something special"

If you can dont do it you'll just be feeding him. Its so hard though. I know. I worked with mine and it was almost unbearable to have to watch that. Please try if you can not to feed that monster. If it helps you to stay away just think of how important he'll feel when he sees how upset you are. Everything I have read says that the one thing that gets to them is indifference. Silence is the only weapon you've got!

Telling him about this that you know about it make no sense. If he is a N he will not care if you know or you do not know about it. Basically this man never cared about nobody apart of himself. If he is a N, during whole the relationship you have been the object for him. He will not think he should feel guilty. For himself he is a winner, he has some supply and this is what only matters. This people do not think like we do, you need to take it in consideration that N brain is not functioning like ours.
I let mine know i know. He said he was meeting her because he felt sth is not good with our relationship and he wanted to move away from it. I know is not truth, because when i broke up with him he said "do not do it i love you" I do not know what is truth from what he said.
Please do not show that you know and try to move on if you can. Is hard, but is truth the only way is to keep NC with them, stop observing them, or proving them anything. It doesn't make sense, believe me.

Yes, its is an injustice. But unfortunately, its not something any of us can go to court over. The BEST way to handle this is what has always been reccommended on this site, and that's NC. No contact is the same as indifference to the Narc only its so much worse for them because its basically saying he is not worth being in the same room with you. And when he tries to contact you, don't respond because that's very painful for them. It drives them nuts, you can turn the table on him while getting peace and quiet from the Narc by not perpetuating the drama. So yes, NC is the appropriate response here.
The best thing is to not put yourself anywhere near him if possible, that way you don't have to put yourself through the strain of having to "act" anything for him.