I checked out a new place to live in another town

Had lunch with my bass player from my old band and talked about a new song

Worked on SEO articles

Tried to shut my mind off whenever I stared to wonder how my NARC is "doing" in the cell in jail that he put himself in

Great idea for a forum topic Goldie!

I've started each day with a journal entry. I list my top 5 priorities and what I'm going to do, no matter how small or big, today to achieve my goals. Here's yesterday's:

Family: spend time with daughter and H
Career: it's Saturday - relax!
School: set up a study place.
Self-Discovery: read
Health: practice tennis serves.

And here's what I actually did yesterdy.

Family: played math games with daughter; took her to get new dancing shoes; went to have ice cream with H and daughter; talked to H about self-discoveries I've made over the past couple of days.

Career: set up a design studio in my home and researched writing off business expenses for use of my home as my place of business.

School: set up my study place.

Self-Discovery: Got a bunch of books out of the library including biographies of some famous Ns. Read 30 pages of Mean Mothers; journaled; researched passive-aggressive emotional maniuplation.

Health: practiced tennis serves and played with H and daughter.

It felt great to actually achieve more than I set out to do. And while this is a difficult time for me because last year at this time, I was in New York at the US Open with the N and having a great time - I found that I can still watch and enjoy tennis even without him around. I still woke up sad and reminiscing about our dream-trip last year, but the sadness was short-lived and I got up ready to tackle the day with a positive attitude.

Good morning on Day 3 of NC for me.
I am going to get coffee in a few minutes and come home to clean the house because one of my best high school friends is coming over today--haven't seen her in twenty years. Her and her family will hang out here and then we'll go to a great dinner at the local German restaurant.
After coffee, I'm going to clean up the house and get the girls ready for church. We'll go to Mass, get some drinks and snacks, and stop by my mom's house to say hi to her and my brother and his wife.
I have found the past two evenings--which are the worst--that being with people really helps. The first night I went to dinner and karaoke with friends, and last night something strange happened. My daughters have friends across the street, and their mom and I occasionally have wine together in the kitchen or go see a movie. Well, she just rang my bell to pick up her girls. She never does this. She just calls or texts them to come home. She stood in my doorway and it seemed like she was waiting for something, so I invited her in and we ended up talking for two hours. By the time she left I felt great and just finished a movie with my girls and went to bed.
I have a tiny little hole in my heart and stomach right now, and a distant part of me wonders where he is and if he is going to ever try to come back again. But I don't think today is that day, and so I get another day to get stronger.

Can you tell me more about your sponsor? You said you found her here (at this sit?). Many times I have felt the need to talk to someone or even email someone directly with questions and to get more specific information.

*I am going to work in the yard with my son and play with my dog

*I'm going to enjoy the beautiful fall day and go for a walk

*I'm going to organize my basement:-( but it has to be done

*I'm going to talk to my daughter about me moving to be with her

*I'm going to smile...just because :-)