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I decided this year to read the Bible all the way through as I have only ever read parts, and I have been struck over and over by all the verses that seems to be describing Narcs! especially in Psalms...just one example, Psalm 5, verse 9...
Not a word from their mouth can be trusted;
their heart is filled with destruction.
Their throat is an open grave;
with their tongue they speak deceit.
I guess Bible passages about evil resonate with me now that I know firsthand about evil!
What Paul said about teaching
September 7, 2010 - 7:58pm — Susan32Since the ex-Psych was in the role of a teacher (and he thought writing about religion made him religious), these verses are relevant-
1 Timothy 6:3-8 If anyone teaches otherwise and does not agree with the sound words of our Lord Jesus Christ and the teaching which accords with godliness, he is puffed up with conceit, he knows nothing; he has a morbid craving for controversy and for disputes about words, which produce envy, dissension, slander, base suspicions, and wrangling among men who are depraved in mind and bereft of truth, imagining that godliness is a means of gain. There is great gain in godliness with contentment; for we brought nothing into the world and we cannot take anything out of the world; but if we have food and clothing, with these we shall be content.
this one has helped me
September 6, 2010 - 1:10pm — queridaI read this verse, and it helped me to not feel guilty about being a Christian wife who is having to pursue divorce from my NH. NH is Christian by confession, but his behavior is not one of a believer... otherwise I wouldn't be on this website!
When well-meaning Christians try to convince me to "keep working on the relationship," not knowing how toxic and unhealthy it was, I remind myself that HE left the house months ago - I tried to stick it out based on my faith, and almost lost me in the process. (I know I have not written my story, I have been putting it off)
1 Corinthians 7:15 (Message Bible)
"On the other hand, if the unbelieving spouse walks out, you've got to let him or her go. You don't have to hold on desperately. God has called us to make the best of it, as peacefully as we can."
sarahb and sherbear
September 5, 2010 - 7:45pm — lynn61another couple that have helped me: "do not argue with a fool" and " Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces". the bible is full of wisdom.
Wow!!
September 5, 2010 - 1:28pm — SherbearI have a hard time cutting off contact and ignoring him as I feel I am being a bitch, and I am a strong Christian with so much love to give. But I know God does not want us to be in relationship with such toxic, poisonous people....and I am so glad to get some scripture backing that up....I feel I have looked evil in the face too....and it's so comforting to know that God is my vindicator and not one thing has gotten by HIM!! I trust and believe that and it has given me more power to let go. Thanks for sharing!
Sherbear
September 5, 2010 - 7:07pm — sarahbWell said, Sherbear! I just found this one too - “The righteous should chose their friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.†(Proverbs 12:26) in other words - Yep, the best thing to do is to ignore the evil toxic Narc! ("No contact" per the bible, I love it!)
The Bible refers to Narcissism as Unrighteous Dominion
September 6, 2010 - 8:50am — Lisa E. ScottI love this post! Did you know that the Bible refers to Narcissism as Unrighteous Dominion - The Abuse of Power. Here's a copy and paste from my book on this very topic:
This temptation to exercise unrighteous dominion exists in any situation where one is in a position of power or influence. It can occur at school, work, church, your community and in homes and families. A man who practices unrighteous dominion in his home single-handedly destroys the self-esteem of his wife and children. He may not even realize he is abusing his power, but simply knows no other way to behave.
In an effort to avoid such unnecessary abuse, we need to build awareness to this growing problem and find ways to help others get in touch with their true selves. Decisions must be made with full consciousness and people must take personal responsibility for their actions.
According to the scriptures, a righteous man of power is one who presides:
• By persuasion. He uses no demeaning words or behavior, does not manipulate others, appeals to the best in everyone, and respects the dignity and agency of all humankind—men, women, boys, and girls.
• By long-suffering. He waits when necessary and listens to the humblest or youngest person. He is tolerant of the ideas of others and avoids quick judgments and anger.
• By gentleness. He uses a smile more often than a frown. He is not gruff or loud or frightening; he does not discipline in anger.
• By meekness. He is not puffed up, does not dominate conversations, and is willing to conform his will to the will of God.
• By love unfeigned. He does not pretend. He is sincere, giving honest love without reservation even when others are unlovable.
• By kindness. He practices courtesy and thoughtfulness in little things as well as in the more obvious things.
• By pure knowledge. He avoids half-truths and seeks to be empathetic.
• Without hypocrisy. He practices the principles he teaches. He knows he is not always right and is willing to admit his mistakes and say “I’m sorry.â€
• Without guile. He is not sly or crafty in his dealings with others, but is honest and authentic when describing his feelings.
Love this!!
September 6, 2010 - 11:10am — SherbearThank you Lisa!!!