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being alone alot
kiwi10
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being alone alot
Posted September 4, 2010 - 12:23am
is it part of the healing process to want to spend copious amounts of alone time? i'm afraid i'm being anticocial but i have become quite the introvert lately.
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ME TOO
September 4, 2010 - 4:20am — sweetsammOMG OMG OMG......that's me!!!!! I've turned into a hermit and I love going out...i come home and have no desire to go out...i feel like i'm never going to be able to meet anyone because i have no desire to go out.....this isn't me......
I'm the same way
September 4, 2010 - 1:59am — allthatglittersI've been spending a lot of time alone lately as well. I'm usually an extrovert by nature, but since my N left me, I've felt the need to just slow down and listen to myself for a change. And my friends all mean well and care about me a lot, but it's difficult to explain to them what I'm going through and feeling right now. This isn't like a 'normal' breakup.
It's hard for other people to understand what we're experiencing and going through, because they haven't been through it. I'm finding it's easier to look things up and do a lot of reading to understand how I ended up like this in the first place. Even when I'm feeling at my worst, I still feel like I need my alone time.
In a way I think I need to be an introvert for a while because I need to figure out who I am again.
I think so
September 4, 2010 - 12:33am — wholeagainAt least for some of us. I asked this question a few months back because I too spend a lot of time alone. I think for one thing we're exhausted, mentally physically and emotionally. We also have a lot to process. I also am very careful about who I trust and talk to now, learning to be very protective of myself.
I also have quiet in a way that I didn't for so many years. Both in my environment and in my head. I can hear myself think!
As long as we're not completely isolating, balancing the time alone with people we feel good around, and aren't deep in a paralyzing depression then it's just another part of healing.
i have lots of good friends
September 4, 2010 - 1:11am — kiwi10i have lots of good friends and some genuinely nice guys who are interested, but i find myself jealously gaurding my time alone. it is peaceful, your right. and the thing is, when he first left i couldn't enjoy the peace. I have spend the past five months sick, pining and insane. Now, I just feel so good to not have to WORRY about being ok for him. I just feel so awesome to read my self help books and listen to music, you know? I'm pretty extraverted by nature, but it feels so good to enjoy my own company.
Great point Fierflie
September 4, 2010 - 2:00am — allthatglittersI think it's actually really important that we do enjoy our own company. That's how we get stronger. At least that's what I'm hoping will happen as I progress through all of this.
allthatglitters
September 4, 2010 - 2:12am — kiwi10i hope that for you too! how far along are you?
I'm only 2 weeks out
September 4, 2010 - 2:15am — allthatglittersOnly 2 weeks... so it feels like I'm so far away from where I need to be. It's painful Fierflie... I feel so confused, hurt, angry... I'm lost. But I know I have to get through this somehow.
awe :( how long were you
September 4, 2010 - 2:17am — kiwi10awe :( how long were you together? if you need to talk i can give you my phone number or email address or facebook account. I know exactly how hard it is... it would help me to help someone else..