The definition of insanity

The definition of insanity
Posted September 3, 2010 - 5:35pm
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This quote from Albert Einstein has been running through my head for several days:

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results".

He was a smart guy.

This is why Ns drive us nuts when we keep trying to reason with them, which is what we've probably been trying all along to no avail. The thing to do different is to let go and go NC, for our own wellbeing and sanity.

If we keep responding the same way as we always have...we will always get what we got before, one way or another. No wonder we feel so wacky, bad, angry, insane when we're still in the information loop.

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gettinbetter's picture

YES YES!

September 4, 2010 - 10:15am — gettinbetter

I dont know why I expected a different outcome 15 years later. Maybe because of all the lies he told me. That he loved me all those years ago and still did. How cool it was that we loved eachother as young college kids and here we were in our forties with so much water under the bridge and we still loved eachother blah blah blah I bought into it all attirbuting what happened in our twenties to it just being young, passionate and immature love. I knew nothing of narcissism until a couple of months ago. The pain I feel is unbelievable. I never really dealt with it from the last time and now I have for a second time and Yes it has made me crazy trying to get a different outcome or atleast closure that Im never gonna get. Im realizing Im going to have to create my own closure.

Nicole96's picture

I have told

September 4, 2010 - 1:22pm — Nicole96

Knowing how awful it would be should i get sucked back in... I have told several friends "Shoot me if i ever try to get back together with him" They all quickly and adamantly agreed!

gettinbetter's picture

NIcole96

September 4, 2010 - 1:29pm — gettinbetter

Always remember that. I dont know how old you are but when I was 27 I was right where you are only I didnt know what was wrong with him. I just figured there was something wrong with me. You have to be vigilant. I had no intention of becoming involved with man again NONE but it happened. Years pass and you think well its been a long time now maybe he had changed. Maybe were just two college kids involved in a young, passionate but immature relationship. Dont let yourself ever think that. This is how he got back into my life again 15 years later 15 years later. Its mind boggling when I think how all of this has played out.

Best wishes to you Nichole96. Atleast you have found a place to vent where people understand the pain you feel

helldweller's picture

insanity

September 3, 2010 - 5:44pm — helldweller

This is the one thing that actually gives me strength. Clinging to my precious rationale. I toldl him ten thousand times: something has to change before we get back together, or the same thing will happen again. Like talking to a brick wall. He was never going to change anything. He was betting on ME being broken down far enough so that I wouldn't question or confront him anymore. It's so strange.

onwithmylife's picture

,helldweller you are so right

September 3, 2010 - 9:24pm — onwithmylife

I believe with all my heart that these men are missing the reasoning gene, along with being emotionally underdeveloped,immature. I could never reason with the man,i remember explaining to him what an accident was, like I was a teacher talking to a 4 year old little student and he had put his body and head under a comforter while I tried vainly to explain to him what had happened.