What to do when you fear they are following you, or threatening you

What to do when you fear they are following you, or threatening you
Posted September 2, 2010 - 3:40pm
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My whole windshield was broken by a rock baseball bat last night and the whole window is smashed in.

Nothing was taken from the car.

I was targeted. And, have reason to believe it was the exN Psychopath.

It has been over a year since I exposed him.

About 4 months ago my rear window was keyed, with his first initial, and another scratch on the back driver door.

Now, my landlord came and told me by back rear window is shattered.

Police said it hit by something like a baseball bat.

My car was the only one in the lot with damage.

I have reason to believe it was him.

What should I do to protect myself.

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Briseis's picture

Everything you can.

September 2, 2010 - 7:16pm — Briseis

This is very scary :( . Have you made a police report? How about the other incidents? And have you named him? He's got motive, and that stuff matters to police.

I'd make a police report and ask the police what they would recommend to you if you were one of their female family members. And then do it.

janine's picture

I feel so sorry for you

September 2, 2010 - 5:23pm — janine

My heart started racing when I read this. I have been through all that with my husband's psychopathic stepson, who later went to prison.
I guess that restriction/protection orders would be of no use, because you'd need proof. Here in Europe the police could do nothing, until the psychopath had actually stalked or harmed you. I guess, it would be the same in the USA. They did, however, advice us about safe locks on doors and windows of our flat, and that made me feel a bit more safe. We used to park the cars far away and walk home looking over our shoulders. Even my cat was not allowed outside without being watched. I had a small can of hairspray in my pocket at all times. If you spray that into someone's eyes - and I would not have hesitated one second - it will hurt like hell.
I am terribly sorry I cannot come up with better advice. One thing though, apart from being very careful, is to not provoke him in any way. What I mean is, don't try to talk to him even though you are sure it is him. Do not react, unless he attacks you and if he should, where ever you are, scream as loud as you can.
Let us hope he will do something (not to you of course)that will get him locked away soon.

wholeagain's picture

Amazed

September 2, 2010 - 4:47pm — wholeagain

Ooh, I'm sorry you're having to deal with that. Very scary stuff.

Have you looked into getting a restraining order? I know you don't have solid proof this was him, but if it's likely that gives you some recourse.

I might also suggest you get some pepper spray and carry it with you at all times. They make canisters that can go on your keychain. If he's suddenly acting up a year later, I wonder what his mental state is (beyond narcissistic).

I've been stalked before and it's really scary. Act to protect yourself by whatever means you can.