on FB. We met on Match. We broke up last Sept. He has been relentless in trying to get me back. Until I found him on FB. He had no idea I knew and even though it was a punch in the gut initially I had some fun too. I would say things verbatum to something either she had posted or he had and he never caught on. Dense much. I was so sickened that he was obviously in a new relatiionship but had never left me alone. I had e-mails from him and I could compare them to the day of something he would post. For instance he wanted to spend the weekend with me so he could take me shopping. I said no. His post on FB Why is it everytime I try to do something nice for someone I get crapped on. He had tried for 10 months to get me back . I had a conversation with him about how long we'd been apart and I knew he hadn't gone without sex and I knew he was in a relationship and that was ok begged him to leave me alone. He insisted he wasn't in a relationship. I feigned interest in getting back together. I was high on knowldege. Drove to see him. Quote" I'm not on FB and I'm not in a relationship. I'm not hiding anything from you. I've never had another woman in this house. You want to know if I've had sex. OK I've had sex. With a hooker.I got one off of CL when I went to Baltimore. In fact I get one everytime I go to LongBeach." Somehow in his twisted mind he thought it was better to admit to being with a hooker than admit that he had moved on and was seeing someone else. The woman who had never been in his house left her prescription on the counter. That was it for me. She was contacted. I guess she then got in touch with him because his last e-mail before i blocked him said. I was only trying to shield you but God is one your side. My time has come. with some info in the middle about when they had gotten together and he had broken up with her months ago. Really she just posted on your wall friday!

I laughed so much and really like your sense of humor. That's also the one thing that my Bast*rd Psychopath/Narc BF isn't gonna take from me either! I can relate to you finding out about his 'Match.com' profile...I agree that there are probably more of him on other singles sites....these guys are such fools! If it weren't so hurtful at first when we find the evidence of their lying and cheating...it is sort-of funny and pathetic at the same time when you fnd a profile of them like the one you found on Match.com. It is funny to read the things they say about themselves...

The first year that my BF was doing the'Prince Charming' act and his mask appeared to be on firmly (he 'seemed so honest, decent, amazing...the 'greatest guy' EVER)...he was so beyond wonderful, well, actually 'Mr. Perfect', my Narc BF was really on more than several singles dating sites while at work each day (meeting, calling, chatting with...and actually going on lunch dates...and more at the hotel across from his office)...and I never even suspected! (read my story if you want, it gets worse eventually, like all our stories!)...I left him then...but you know how they do the 'Hoover Maneuver' relentlessly...so I went back (repeat cycle about 5 times so far...stooooopid me! really stooooopid me)...

Anyway, we have been living together for over 3 years (together nearly 4 years)...and throughout all of this relationship he has cheated...(lost count...actually caught him recently having a long distance relationship with a pretty blond who looks like a younger version of me, who lives in Niagara Falls...I think I have finally gone crazy...because I have learned all sorts of Private Investigative tactics and really creative ways to nip his dalliances and quasi-relationships in the bud now...and it is almost fun...HAHAHA ...almost)

For instance, in this most recent situation, the OW happens to be a make-up artist who does the make-up for Brides and Weddings...SO, I called her at her office and left a very sweet, *innocent* message that my BF...now Fiance' _______(insert his name) and I were SO excited! We just got ingaged and we would be coming to Niagara Falls for our vacation in a few weeks and wondered if SHE could do my make-up for the engagement announcement photos??? (SMILE!!!!)....THEN I found her Facebook Profile (she had previously sent HIM a request to add her to his friends list and even suggested he create a new Facebook Profile for just the two of them...as she had posted some really nice pictures of HERSELF and wanted to share them with him....So I sent HER an invitation to add ME and check out _________(insert his name)and MY recent photos...and VOILA! OH! She got the message alright! He had told her that he & I were broken up,...she did not know that we were actually living together...and we did not know about each other for mnths! Next thing you know! SHE blocked HIM...and I can only imagine what their last phone call was like(hope she gave it to him good!)...because that afternoon he came home from work with such a sad 'hang dog' look (DOG being the operative word here)...and he was very clingy to me for about 2 weeks while he 'mourned his loss'...awwwwwwwwwww....I barely had to say a word to him about it!

Of course it has been about a month now since this happened...and he is sniffing after another one now...all the signs are there....and one of the guys at his work implied that he wasn't the 'good boy' I may think he is...I told him...believe me, I KNOW all about him...may not know this one's name yet...but give me time...gonna find out and find another way to mess up his little secret life again...eventually word will get around among all the gals in town...and they will warn each other...

Doesn't matter what we do...how pretty or sweet we are...how much attention we give them, nor how much validation, good sex and terrific dinners we cook...they are serial cheaters...pathological liars...total DOGS!...

I LOVE your girlfriend's idea about creating fake 'Profiles' and luring him and messing with him on Match.com! My Girlfriends and I have had some fun doing this too! (We once set him up for a coffee date where he thought he was meeting this gorgeous brunette hottie named 'Sophie'...but she never shows up of course (coz she was even less real than he is HAHA)...and a few minutes before he leaves the cafe...I show up with my GF's in tow to have some coffee while we girls are 'out shopping'...and I act all happy and surprised as I ask him what HE is doing there????....and we gals just SMILE as we watch him turn all shades of red while trying to explain that he had a business appointment downtown, and just stopped for a coffee before going back to the office (yeah right buddy-boy you lying hound)...he never had a clue we had set him up for some dissappointment...with a side order of embarrassment!

Did I mention there was also...Nadia (who reeled him in...got him hooked on some 'supply' and thinking he was so great...as he believes he is...only to have her then inform him after the communication starts heating up...that she has found someone 'BETTER' than HIM and didn't want to continue communicating with him),...and similar stories with profiles called 'Theresa, Mila, Shannon, Fanny, Francesca' (and more)...etc....(all naughty profiles we created (well done profiles so he could not tell they were fake) to mess with him and set him up in 'learning' situations...including get him really hooked by a few or these 'fake' gals...really thinking he was having an online 'affair'...stroking his ego, chatting on MSN (sneaking around behind my back...HAHA I knew about it cause we had all set it up) and we were feeding him ALOT of delicious narcissistic supply...and then suddenly we would delete the profile of his latest 'fake' sexy, hot, OW (really my GF's & me)and block his emails...so he was suddenly cut off from all communication from this *perfect creature* and was utterly frantic to find her (while trying to hide it all from ME...Oh what fun!)...or then there was the time 'Julianna' (not real...but boy did she seem real!HAHA)...get him all stirred up and thinking he found the most perfect woman (we made it appear as if she was into fashion, clubbing, etc, his type exactly, sexy, pretty, long legged blond part-time model...um no she wasn't, she was another 'fake' profile we created...it was just my GFs and me having fun with the jerk!)...until the day came when *she* emailed him...saying how terribly upset she was to find out about all his lies and all the really bad things about him (can imagine the moment his Narcissistic Bliss Bubble burst!!!), because *she* has an *uncle* in the *RCMP* who ran a background check on him to make sure he was the great guy he appeared to be, before she got too involved...and this *uncle* found out that HE had several arrests for rage and violence...along with oher charges (he actually does have this in his records and had to go through a special Domestic Violence counseling at the local University as ordered by a Judge in court)...anyway.this *Julianna* gave him a HUGE dose of what I like to call 'anti-supply'...and also mentioned how she was going to warn every woman in town about him...and to NEVER contact her again...or she would tell her *RCMP uncle* and get him arrested for harrassment.

When he was terribly pre-occupied that night at home, didn;t even want dinner...went to bed early...didn't even get on his nightly 'PORN' on the computer...and seemed depressed for a few days...I KNEW why...but HE never knew that I knew why!:-)

I have become a very naughty girl! HAHA but now I figure, if he is gonna mess with ME...I will oblige him and mess with him in some very humorous wicked ways (and just like HE thinks I would never know about his profiles...yes, I found him now on Fitness Single and Match.com again recently, I figure I will have my 'secret' and play with his head and ego)...he has caused me SO many tears and changed the course of my once happy life...a few 'hard knocks and lessons' won't kill him. Actually I think nothing would kill him...HAHA...these guys are like Cockroaches!!! :-)....but it has been a bit of fun behind the scenes putting a damper on his lying/cheating ways, and then we girls all go out for Cosmos and laugh at him. It takes the edge off the broken heart he has caused me...and others.

OH! The fun you can have with a Narcissist when you really get what makes them tick!...turning the table on HIM has been cathartic and humerous. I may be going to HELL now because of it...but it is worth it! HAHAHA

Forget love - I'd rather fall in chocolate!