Lisa, what did you mean when you said "coming down" off a relationship, did you mean my hN's relationship with me, since hes coming down off it he plays the calling, texting, stopping by game? or did you mean he's coming down from his high, meaning the honeymoon period with his whore? Im not sure what you meant, because its been five months and he has no intention of not keeping me on a string, even if its for a lifetime. Im assuming hes come down from his relationship with her if hes already been cheating with others and continues to try and keep his wife on a string until he decides how and when he will make his next move. I m just praying he moves on from this nasty whore. as for her ever knowing he calls me and texts me, no way, she has no idea, trust me, shes a ballsy bitch she would have called me and said why are there texts to you, whats going on, even if i would just hang up on her, better yet, i would say, what goes on between my husband and i is none of your business, and then i would hang up........screw her, no way, she absolutely has no idea, none, she would go crazy, believe me hes so good at what he does, she wont catch on for years, hes the best at lying and sneaking, he knows how deep asleep you are, he knows if your sneaking around and he erases all his texts immediately and uses our family cell phone line, not the phone he has with her, to call and text me.......but dont worry i have insurance, i have a record of all calls and texts coming mostly to me and from, and a picture of every text as to what it says..........so he better be very careful not to rock the boat here. as long as he continues paying every bill in the house and gives our daughter money, then fine i wont show.....but until then i keep insurance, i also have all the empty bottles of steroids and used and unused needles with the packaging from when she was buying his illegal steroid when we were still together, it has her address on the label, he thought he was slick, he hid it in an empty dorito bag in the garbage, but i found it.......i keep a lot of insurance, because i cant afford for him to screw the house bills to play house over there, and so when she pays for everything, guess what, shes paying for my shit basically, now thats funny...........i am sad though, i hate that he lives with her, even if its pretend love, she thinks she has true love, and she thinks she saved a man who loves her from a horrible marriage with a woman he never loved. too bad she doesnt know hes tiger woods x10, but less the money............