I do not feel closure because I didn't get anything out of him at all at counseling yesterday. We did communication exercises instead of addressing his NPD. So my H doesn't know he has it. The dr said it's best if we counsel him for NPD under the illusion of "Marriage counseling". I don't know if I agree? It may backfire. We are still living together and I look forward to when he is not home. Being on these boards has helped me in my quest for greatness in a marriage and to NOT expect it from him. So, I feel I am further along intellectually and the Dr. , my H's mom, and friends all say "it will take time so be patient and if he screws up in the meantime, then go." I am confused still soooo, closure I don't have but I understand if he was never diagnosed I would feel HORRIBLE. I just hope he gets told in the end WHAT he has and who he is and how pathetic he seems. I guess when I do decide to END it, I will take shaynasmommys advice and do it in the dr office. WHen I do that, I will tell him he has NPD and hand him a folder full of examples that I have printed. I even highlighted the parts that are his personality.

I caouldn't have said it better myself..My lovely husband died and left an evil man in his beautiful shell. I do feel sad and crying..I'm just shocked cuz I WONDERED AND i GUESSED HOPED i WAS WRONG, YOU KNOW? I hope I don't cry all night...