Great post! It's true! I've been checking out dating tips on line in book etc! It is full of crap! But what I so orry about is this playing the field mentality! Notall men are bad men and frankly I have to disagree with the dating a few men at once thing!!! How is that fair! Not getting physical is one thing! A good thing if u want to play it safe! But I would be upset to discover the guy I was dating physical or not ws dating otha girls at the same time! My mother always told me as a young womanto play the field, not to settle for one guy! Even as a youngster this advice did not help me! I always got caught and lost both or all the dates! I learned that it was better just to keep it simple! One date at one time! Besides these days I'm not exactly inandated with guys!!!! But seriously it's just not nice! It's game playing! I don't want it done to me! God I hate the thought of being some guys back up girl because the other girl he is dating is more attractive or appealing and is playing mote hard to get!!! So the bit that wound meup the most was the bit about dating lots of people at the same time! It might seem good for the person with all the dates! The dater, but for the dateeed I wud say it will be pretty hurtful to discover your in a que of otha potentials!!! I am gona teach my son to be respectful on his dates! If he had a potential love triangle I wud tell him to add it up on traits that are meaningful and to let down one of the girls gently! I wud not advice him to play the field or keep stringing them both along until he had made his mind! If he makes the wrong choice early on well therein lies a good lesson! No ithink it's best we learn this! Treat others as you would like to be treated! If u meat a narc and ur red flags are not waving wildly then I would say your still not ready to date! But if you meet a nice guy and you have him dangling on a thread of other guys! Well yea you might have the fortune to be so lucky but is that a nice way to start your potential relationship! I can have multiple dates if I want but simultaniuos multiple dates just sounds dangerous underhanded and narcy! Don't narcs do this when they are scouting for new sources?? No one man a time! Take it slow! Be the person you seek to find in your future partner! Think of it like this! If you don't wana meet a guy who has lots of sideline dates, sizing you up in the mix, then play by better rules!
Basics!!! Treat others as you want to be treated and I believe in karma! What comes around gies around! You can invite love into your life when your ready! You can be the light you want to have in your life! If you are confident and in command of your own light then those who also shine brightly will soon come! The cheating lieing narcs will get there just deserts one day! Rotten apples fall near the tree! The rotten ones can find other rotten apples! If you stay on the tree and grown and grow and flourish in your own growth! You will find your way into the hands of someone who you can be the judge of! If you know your own mind well enough then your fitted up perfectly with the tools to be more discerning! Just be the change you seek! So the articles about dating stink!!! We need to look at articles about loving ourselves and becoming people who can have good relationships! Its about change in the self! You cud date ten guys at the sane time nut if you still don't love yourself first and know your own mind and needs first, all ten are gona turn out no brainers!!! So yea, dump the articles and advice and retreat within I say! And as for dating a few guys at the same time well I think that's just kinda shallow and dangerous! X Scuse spelling am on my phone!!