Some of you may remember a post I had awhile back about how N was in a lawsuit with "Bad Man" - his former business partner. Two different lawsuits, which "Bad Man" won due to "him spending more $ on lawyers". N never told me "Bad Man's" name after talking about him for three years...but finally told me a few months ago, when one of the banks we were working with had "bad man" as a vp.

N told me that he would make sure that "bad man" never was able to get near my business, and that he would "protect" me from him, and tried to keep us apart.

B and others encouraged me to try to meet "bad man" if possible; well, i had the opp last night.

N and I were invited to a skybox for a professional tennis tournament by this bank... I knew N wouldn't go because:
1) I am still being punished for turning him down. This will last for the rest of my life.
2) "Bad Man" would likely be there...and that would be awkward (although N would never admit this is the reason he didn't go.)

Anyway, I show up and recogize "bad man" from pictures. Sat next to him in the Skybox, and he figured out who I was right away and realized the link between me and N. But he respectfully said "oh, you work with my former business partner, N".....no negativity at all; and we had a wonderful time talking all night long.

We didn't get into details of the lawsuits...but it was interesting how "bad man" referred to him very respectfully, whereas N tells everyone about "bad man"....and uses the word "bad" even to people he doesn't know very well.

Just like N tells everyone that "LOML is after me...and I could never be attracted to her in a relationship manner"....yuck...nice thing to say after all of the things he has said to me and everything we have discussed about being in a relationship together.

Part of the 2-faced, back stabbing, manipulative, ego pumping, disloyal, disrespectful, opportunist characteristics of a full blown self-effacing N!

Anyway, it was very enpowering to have a great conversation with "bad man" - and he was very warm, nice, smart, and respectful.

N would S*** in his pants if he knew we spent the evening together talking (and that he wasn't there to "protect" me)....as I'm sure he will find out today from other people we know in common.